UNacho Zarzosa

Ndikhoyo isidanga kwizengqondo ngu I-Faculty of Psychology yeYunivesithi yaseOviedo kwaye enkulu ndinomdla ngentsingiselo yamaphupha kunye Uvavanyo lweengqondo. Ngoku ndisebenza njengotitshala weelwimi kwisikolo iBaracaldo eBilbao. Ngo-2005 ndazisa le webhusayithi kwaye ukusukela ngoko ndikonwabele ukubhala kunye nokwabelana nabo bonke abafundi bam intsingiselo yamaphupha ukuze nabo bakwazi ukuwatolika, bazi imvelaphi yabo kwaye bazi ukuba lithetha ntoni iphupha ngalinye. Ngolwazi oluthe kratya Ungayibona iprofayile eseleyo ngokucofa apha.

Kuthetha ntoni ukuphupha uphuma amazinyo?

Kutshanje sijonge inqaku elihlola intsingiselo yokuphupha ngamazinyo ; ngeli xesha, siza kugxila kwintsingiselo yokuphupha amazinyo akho ephuma . Ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko yobomi bakho kunye neenkcukacha zephupha, iintsingiselo zingahluka. Ngaphambi kokuba siqale, zama ukukhumbula zonke iinkcukacha zephupha lakho.

Amazinyo emaphupheni adla ngokunxulunyaniswa neenkxalabo , iingxaki, okanye uloyiko olufihliweyo engqondweni yakho oluvela ebusuku. Zingabonisa nokuba sele kudlule ixesha elide ukusukela ekuhlolweni kwakho kokugqibela kwamazinyo, ukuba udinga ukukhutshwa kwezinyo, ukufakelwa, okanye ii-X-ray ukuze kubonwe ukuba ufuna ukufakelwa kwamazinyo okanye amazinyo okufakelwa. Ezi meko zinokuguqula amaphupha akho abe ngamaphupha amabi.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha usana?

Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngomntwana , ufike kwindawo elungileyo kuba ndiza kuphendula yonke imibuzo yakho. Xa sinomntwana, sibona ukuba yeyona nto ixabisekileyo enokwenzeka kuthi kwaye itshintsha ubomi bethu.

Akukho nto izokufana kwabo bazali ukusukela ngalamzuzu, sinomntwana kwaye ixesha lifikile lokuba simtotobise ngoba umsulwa, simnike ukufudumala ukuze ahlaliseke kwaye amkhaphe kwinyathelo ngalinye izakuthatha ebomini bakho obutsha ukuba ungene emhlabeni.

Intsingiselo yokuphupha amazinyo okanye ukuba amazinyo akho awe

Kukho iintlobo ngeentlobo zamaphupha xa kufikwa ekuphupheni ngamazinyo . Liyinyaniso elokuba amanye anokubonakala engenangqondo, kodwa anokuba nentsingiselo enzulu kakhulu kunokuba ebonakala. Uninzi lwamaphupha lunxulumene nendlela esibona ngayo ihlabathi, oko kwenzekayo kuthi kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla, okanye oko sikoyikayo, oko sikuthembayo, kunye nendlela esizibona ngayo.

Khumbula ukuba amaphupha ethu aveliswa yingqondo yethu engaphantsi kwengqondo , ziingcinga zethu. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuba siyazi indlela yokuwatolika, singoyisa nayiphi na imiqobo ebangelwa bubomi bethu. Le yenye yeziseko zendlela yokucinga kaSigmund Freud.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngeentshulube?

Zininzi izinto ezinokubangela ukuba uphuphe ngemibungu yomhlaba . Ukuba udlala ngayo esikolweni, ukuba uyifumene kwizityalo zakho, okanye ukuba uye wayokuloba nomntwana wakho, kulula ukuba neengcinga ezifanayo ngelixa ulele. Kodwa inokuvela ungaqondanga. Kweli nqaku, ndiza kuchaza ngokweenkcukacha ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngemibungu yomhlaba.

Nangona kunjalo, ngaphambi kokuqala ngotoliko lwamaphupha kufuneka ndikuxelele ukuba phantse onke amaphupha anokuthintela, kwaye kufuneka ubandakanye izigqibo zakho. Ukongeza, oko akuthethi okufanayo ukuba iintshulube zibomvu okanye zimhlophe, umhlaba okanye ulwandle, ukuba zisemzimbeni okanye zisemlonyeni, ukuba zikhulu okanye zincinci. Ngaba babekokutya? Ngaba uyababona okanye uyaziva nje? Kuninzi ukubona, inyathelo ngenyathelo, ukufumana intsingiselo elungele umxholo wakho.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ibhokisi?

Ukuphupha ibhokisi yomngcwabo kudla ngokuthathwa njengephupha elibi. Ukuba kutshanje ulahlekelwe lilungu losapho okanye umntu obaluleke kakhulu kuluhlu lwabantu obaqhelileyo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba nephupha elinjalo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ibhokisi yomngcwabo ivele ngokungacwangciswanga ephupheni lakho, intsingiselo yayo ingahluka kakhulu.

Kweli nqaku, siza kuchaza iinkcukacha ezahlukeneyo malunga nentsingiselo yephupha lakho elibandakanya ibhokisi yomngcwabo , ukuze ukwazi ukulisebenzisa kwimeko yakho. Iingcali zokutolika amaphupha azihlali zidibanisa amaphupha ngeebhokisi zomngcwabo nentsingiselo engentle. Oku kunokunxulunyaniswa nomdla womphuphi wokufunda okungakumbi ngehlabathi elingaphaya kwendalo, ekutyhaleleni ngaphaya kwemida yokuqonda komntu, nasekuhloleni imilinganiselo emitsha. Ukutolika kufana nokuphupha ngamangcwaba ebusuku , okanye ngokufa.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngemali?

Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngemali , eli nqaku liza kutyhila zonke iinkcukacha eziza kukuvula amehlo. Imali yeyona nto iphambili eqhuba olu luntu. Uqoqosho luyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yempumelelo, nangona luhlula phakathi kwabatyebileyo nabangamahlwempu.

Ngapha koko, yenye yezona zinto ziphambili ezithandwa ngabantu, yiyo loo nto amaxesha amaninzi siphupha ngayo. Iintsingiselo zahlukahlukene, njengoko siza kubona kamva.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha imoto, imoto okanye imoto?

Namhlanje uza kufunda ngokweenkcukacha ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngemoto kuba zininzi izinto onokuzichaza. Imoto (okanye "imoto" njengoko ibizwa njalo eLatin America) yeyona ndlela isetyenziswa kakhulu yokuthutha abantu kuluntu. Intuthuzelo, ukhuseleko, kunye nesantya esinikezelwa yimoto zingcono kakhulu kunezinye izithuthi, yiyo loo nto ithandwa kangaka, yiyo loo nto kuqhelekile ukuphupha ngayo, ingakumbi ukuba ungumthandi wemoto.

Okokuqala, kufuneka wazi ukuba andinakukwazi ukuchaza nje ukutolikwa kwamaphupha ngaphandle kwengcaciso engaphezulu, kuba kuqala kufuneka uhlalutye imeko apho iphupha lakho lenzeka khona, kunye neemeko zakho. Umzekelo, akuthethi into efanayo ukuba ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo ikubonisa uqhuba imoto entsha (njengeFerrari) ngokungathi ubona ingozi yemoto apho ilungu losapho lalingumkhweli. Uyabona?

Kuthetha ntoni ukuphupha unogumbe?

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi intsingiselo epheleleyo yokuphupha ngezandyondyo ? Kwimeko yamaphupha, izikhukula zinxulunyaniswa nokuvulwa kweendlela ezintsha ebomini bethu, kunye notshintsho oluya kufuna ukuziqhelanisa. Olu tshintsho luya kutshintsha ubuntu bakho, iingcamango zakho, indlela oziphatha ngayo, kunye nendlela oxabisa ngayo ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ingqondo yakho ikuthumela imifanekiso ngamaphupha ukukunceda uqonde indlela yonke into eya kutshintsha ngayo kunye nokuba amaxesha amahle namabi aya kuba njani.

Njengakwezinye iiphupha eziphathelele amanzi , kufuneka zilungelelaniswe kwaye zilungelelaniswe neemeko zakho zangoku, kunye neenkcukacha ezithile ezivele ephupheni. Akuyi kufana nokuba umkhukula wawunamanzi acacileyo, acacileyo, okanye ukuba wawungcolile kwaye wawunamaza amakhulu agubungela isixeko ngokupheleleyo.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iingonyama?

Iidokhumentari zikubonisa indlela iingonyama ezizingela ngayo, oko zikutyayo, nendlela eziphila ngayo kwiindawo ezizingcayo, kodwa azichazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngeengonyama . Kweli nqaku, ndiza kutyhila zonke iinkcukacha zale ngcaciso yephupha.

Iingonyama ziphakathi kwezilwanyana ezinkulu ezikhoyo, mhlawumbi ngenxa yefilimu ethi "The Lion King." Ukuba ukhe wayibukela le filimu kutshanje, watyelela i-zoo okanye i-safari, okanye waphanda ngayo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba nephupha elifana nalo.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ubhubhane?

Akuqhelekanga kangako, kodwa kuyenzeka, kwaye xa singalindelanga. Yiyo loo nto ukuphupha ngezifo ezibhubhisayo kuthetha ukuba sijongene nento esihlangabezana nayo ngaphezu kokuba besingathanda . Ngenxa ye -coronavirus kunye nemeko yongxamiseko ebhengezwe, ubomi bethu buye baphazamiseka, kwaye oku kuyabonakala nasemaphupheni ethu.

Yiyo loo nto ukuphupha ngeentsholongwane kunye nobhubhane kuxhaphake kakhulu kule mihla . Ke ngoko, simele sicinge ukuba imizimba neengqondo zethu sele ziphenjelelwe yile ngongoma. Ukuhlalutya iphupha kunzima kakhulu kunokuba sicinga, kodwa ukuba sinalo olu siseko, okuseleyo kukuxoxa ngentsingiselo yalo. Ngaba ufuna ukufumanisa?

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ukrebe?

Abantu abaninzi baphupha ngooshaka emva kokubukela imuvi efana neJaws edumileyo , eqondiswe nguSpielberg, okanye ihlaya elihlekisayo iSharknado . Kungokwemvelo ukuphupha ngooshaka ukuba wenza into efana nokutyelela i-aquarium okanye i-zoo. Ngokufanayo, ukubukela iidokhumentari, ukufunda iincwadi malunga nooshaka, okanye ukubandakanyeka kwimisebenzi efanayo nako kunokukhokelela kumaphupha ngabo.

Kule meko, akukho mfuneko yokutolika amaphupha kuba ukhe wadibana neshark emhlophe enkulu, ishark ye-hammerhead, okanye olunye uhlobo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba iphupha livele ngokungazi, kuyanceda ukuqonda intsingiselo yalo. Eli nqaku lichaza ngokweenkcukacha oko kuthethwa kukuphupha ngoshark.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ubulawa?

Ukuphupha ubulewe uze uvuke wothukile ngexesha lolwaphulo-mthetho kuqhelekile kunokuba ucinga. Kubo bonke ubomi, sifumana amaxhala amaninzi kunye noloyiko olungena ezingqondweni zethu, kwaye ngaxa lithile, oku kuthetha amaphupha amabi ahlukeneyo. Kodwa... zithetha ukuthini ngokwenene? Ukuze ufikelele kwizigqibo eziqinisekileyo malunga nephupha obulewe kulo, kufuneka uqale uhlalutye imeko eyenzeka kuyo. Ayinantsingiselo ifanayo ukuba umhlobo ukubulele njengokuba umntu ongamaziyo ebulala, okanye ukuba sisilwanyana osoyikayo.

Ngaphezu koko, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela imeko yakho yeemvakalelo kunye neemeko zangoku, kuba into elula njengokwenza isigqibo inokubangela iphupha elibi kangaka. Kukwaluncedo ukuqonda intsingiselo yokuphupha ngokubulala (ukuba nguwe obulala umntu) kunye nokuphupha ngokubulala (ukuba ukubonile njengomntu wesithathu okanye awubandakanyeki). Oku kuya kunika ulwazi olongezelelekileyo ukuze kugqitywe ukutolikwa.

lithetha ntoni iphupha elinamazinyo?

Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngamazinyo, uza kufumana zonke iinkcukacha ezingezantsi. Amazinyo yenye yezona ndawo zixabisekileyo emzimbeni wethu; siwasebenzisa ukutya, ukuqhekeza ukutya, ukukuluma, nokukuhlafuna ukuze isisu sethu sikwazi ukukugaya. Kodwa akwaluphawu lokuzithemba kwethu, kuba xa sincuma, onke ayakhanya ukuba amhlophe.

Ngamanye amaxesha siphupha amazinyo ethu ephuma ; eneneni, lelinye lawona maphupha aqhelekileyo. Kodwa indlela etolikwa ngayo iyahluka kumntu nomntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuphupha amazinyo akho ephuma ibonisa uloyiko lokungaphumeleli, ukuzenza isidenge phambi kwabanye, nto leyo eya kuba yingxaki kuwe. Kuthetha ukuba awunalo ukuzithemba, ukuba uphoswa yintlantsi encinci yokufezekisa usukelo, yiyo loo nto uvakalelwa kukuba izinto zinokuhamba gwenxa.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ii-slugs?

Ngaba wakha wayibona intsingiselo yokuphupha ngeengcuka ? Kuqheleke kakhulu kunokuba ucinga ukuphupha ngezilwanyana ezisicaphukisayo okanye ezisoyikisayo; yiyo loo nto siphupha ngeentwala okanye iingwenya . Nangona kunjalo, i-subconscious ifumana isizathu sokukwenza uphuphe ngengcuka kunokuba uphuphe ngesinye isilwanyana. Ukuba ukhe waliphupha eli phupha, asilophupha nje, kodwa ngumyalezo elikuthumelele wona, kwaye kufuneka ulitolike ngokusekelwe kwimeko yakho kunye nomxholo wephupha.

Ngoncedo lweenkcukacha ozibonakaliswe yi-subconscious kuwe, inqanaba ohamba kulo kunye nesichazi-magama samaphupha, uya kuyazi ukuba kuthetha ntoni iphupha le-slugs kwaye uya kuqonda zonke izinto ezingaziwayo ezikukhathazayo.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iinyoka?

Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngeenyoka , eli nqaku liza kukuxelela yonke into ekufuneka uyazi. Iinyoka ziluhlobo losapho lwezilwanyana ezirhubuluzayo, udidi lweSauropsida. Igama lazo lesayensi yiNatrix natrix , kwaye thina bantu sidla ngokuzidibanisa neemeko ezimbi, ingakumbi emaphupheni ethu.

Siziva sinexhala kwaye sivuka sinovalo kuba ibilelona phupha libuhlungu kunayo nantoni na eyenye. Isizathu kukuba uninzi lwazo lunetyhefu, alunabuntu ebantwini.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha izikhova kunye nezikhova?

Amaphupha ngeempungutye akaqhelekanga kangako. Ukuphupha ngeempungutye kumela ubuchule bakho bokubona nokuva. Intsingiselo yalo ikwanxulumene nethamsanqa kunye nobuchule beshishini (oku kungenxa yokuba impungutye ineliso elibalaseleyo).

Aba badlwenguli bayathanda ukuhlala kude kube sebusuku, akukho mfuneko yokuba balale, ngendlela efanayo eyenzeka kulutsha lwanamhlanje, bahlala bethatha ixesha lokuya kulala. Kodwa amaphupha ngezi zilwanyana anokuba nolunye utoliko, olwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kumxholo, iimeko eziboniswa nguwe kunye nemizuzu ohamba kuyo.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngololiwe?

Uloliwe yindlela yothutho ethandwayo kubemi banamhlanje ; usenza sikwazi ukugubungela imigama emide kwaye uyonga kakhulu kunezinye iindlela ezininzi. Ngenxa yokuba uxhaphake kakhulu ebomini bethu, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuchitha ubusuku bonke uphupha ngoololiwe . Kubiza kancinci kunetikiti lenqwelo-moya kwaye, xa ucinga ngendlela amaxabiso omgwaqo omkhulu kunye nepetroli anyukile ngayo, kubiza kancinci kunokuqhuba. Kusivumela ukuba sifikelele naphi na ngeeyure ezimbalwa.

Ukuba ukhwela uloliwe okanye itram rhoqo xa usiya emsebenzini, mhlawumbi iphupha alinantsingiselo ibalulekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba liphupha eliphindaphindayo, okanye ukuba awukaze ukhwele uloliwe, kufuneka uqhubeke ufunda ukuze ufumane ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngololiwe.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngeentwala?

Ukuba ufuna ukwazi yonke into malunga nentsingiselo yokuphupha ngeentwala, qhubeka ufunda inqaku lethu elimnandi. Ukuphupha ngeentwala akuyonto ilungileyo ; ezi zidalwa zincinci ziyasondla kwaye zibeka amaqanda (iincindi) entlokweni zethu, aza kuba ziintwala ezintsha kamva. Ke ngoko, ingqondo yethu ingazama ukuwagxotha la maphupha ngaphandle kwengcaciso kwaye iwalibale ngokukhawuleza.

Sonke sifuna ukuphupha ngezinto ezintle ezishiya incasa emilonyeni yethu xa sivuka, kodwa njengoko sisazi kakuhle ukuba asikwazi kulawula ukuqonda kwethu xa silele, ngamanye amaxesha siphela sinamaphupha esingafuniyo kwaye anakho jika ube liphupha elibi. Intwala yincukuthu emzimbeni wethu, ke intsingiselo yayo inxibelelene ngqo nokuziva ngathi unjalo okanye uziva ukuba umntu othile sisidleleli sethu.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ukubulala okanye ukubulala?

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngokubulala ? Ukuba kunjalo, qhubeka ufunda eli nqaku. Ukubulala kusoloko kuvela emaphupheni ethu xa sibona ukuphangwa okanye ukumiswa size sizive sisoyika, kunye naxa sibona ibali leendaba kumabonwakude okanye kwiphephandaba kwaye liyasothusa.

Ngamanye amaxesha, ngenxa yendlela eqhelekileyo yoluntu, iingqondo zethu zisifundisa ngolwaphulo-mthetho ngendlela ebonakala ngathi ayichanekanga. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko zakho zangoku kunye nomxholo webali, ukubulala umntu kunokuba neentsingiselo ezahlukeneyo . Ukubulala umntu omaziyo akunantsingiselo ifanayo nokubulala umntu ongamaziyo okanye nesilwanyana. Ngamanye amaxesha, nguwe osukelwayo (fumanisa ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha usukelwa ), lowo bafuna ukumbulala. Kutheni bebendidubula? Sisiphi isiganeko ebomini bam bokwenyani esinokubangela la maphupha amabi?

Kuthetha ntoni ukuphupha ipuli yokudada?

Apha sichaza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngedama lokudada . Kuqhelekile ukuphupha ngedama lokudada ukuba uphoswa yihlobo, uya ekhefini, uphumle elunxwemeni, okanye uqhelisela imisebenzi yasemanzini efana nokudada. Ukuba uyonwabela ngokwenene ukudada, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo ikuthumelela imifanekiso yokwanelisa loo mnqweno, okanye ukukukhumbuza ukuba uyaphoswa.

Kodwa kunokuba kunjalo ukuba iphupha ledama lokubhukuda livela ngaphandle kwesizathu. Kulapho kuya kufuneka utolike ukuba kunokuthetha ntoni.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngabahlobo?

Ebomini, kukho izinto ezithile wonke umntu aya kuzifumana ngaxa lithile; ubuhlobo bungomnye wabo . Yiyo loo nto ukuphupha ngabahlobo kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye into yokuba kuqheleke kangaka eluntwini ithetha ukuba kukho intsingiselo emva koko. Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni? Kweli nqaku, uza kufunda indlela yokutolika la maphupha , kodwa kuqala, masicacise iinkcukacha ezimbalwa.

Iingcaciso neempendulo ziyahluka kakhulu kuxhomekeke kumxholo wephupha. Akunjalo ukuba ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo ikubonisa abahlobo odlala nabo kwaye wonwabe nabo njengoko ikubonisa abahlobo abangasekhoyo kuba ubakhumbula . Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba uyifunde ngononophelo kwaye uqwalasele iimeko zakho zobuqu, eziya kuchaphazela nesigqibo sakho sokugqibela.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha izinyuko?

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngezinyuko ? Izinyuko zezinye zezinto ezikhoyo kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla, ngaphandle kwazo ubomi bebuya kuba nzima kakhulu. Naphi na apho uya khona, uya kufumana izinyuko; uya kunyuka kuzo, uya kwehla kuzo, ujonge izinyuko ukuze ungawi kwaye ucinga ngezinto ezenzeka kwimihla ngemihla. Ngaphambi kokuba siqale ngokutolika amaphupha, kufuneka wazi ukuba amaphupha ngezinyuko ahluke kakhulu.

Ungabona izitebhisi ezenziwe ngomthi, ngombane, okanye ngoomatshini , izitebhisi ezijikelezayo, izitebhisi ezaphukileyo, okanye izitebhisi ezinde ezimhlophe. Ngaba zimxinwa okanye zibanzi? Ngaba uyenyuka okanye uyehla? Ngaba zenziwe ngesamente kwaye ziyadilika? Ezi ziinkcukacha ezibalulekileyo kuhlalutyo lwengqondo, kwaye zonke zichazwe apha. Umongo wephupha ubalulekile, kwaye nguwe kuphela oza kuqonda intsingiselo yokugqibela, ngoncedo lwala manqaku alandelayo.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iingelosi?

Ezi zidalwa zineempiko zinoxanduva lokudlulisela umyalezo kuthi, kwaye ukuphupha ngeengelosi kunokuba neentsingiselo ezilungileyo nezingalunganga. Ukususela kumaxesha amandulo, umfanekiso wazo ubunxulunyaniswa nobunyulu bomphefumlo, kunye nokukhuselwa koluntu, kodwa kukwakho neengelosi ezibuhlungu nezingenabuhlobo. Ndiza kutyhila zonke iimfihlo ngezantsi.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngemela?

Kweli nqaku, ndichaza ngokweenkcukacha ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngemela . Iimela zizixhobo zasekhitshini eziluncedo kakhulu kwaye ngokungathandabuzekiyo yenye yezona zinto zinomdla nezisetyenziswa kakhulu ebantwini. Ngenxa yazo, asidingi amazinyo ethu ukuze sinqumle ukutya, siyakuphepha ukuzilimaza, kwaye sithintela inkqubo yethu yokugaya ukutya ukuba isebenze nzima kunokuba kuyimfuneko.

Sonke siphethe imela ezandleni zethu yonke imihla kwaye siyisebenzisela izinto ezininzi, ngoko ke kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuphupha ngayo. Nangona kunjalo, ndifuna ukukuxelela kuqala ukuba zininzi iindlela zokutolika ezinokwenzeka , kuba umxholo unokwahluka kakhulu. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuphupha ngokuxobula iitapile akuthethi into efanayo nokuphupha ngokuphangwa nokubanjwa imela entanyeni yakho, okanye ukuphupha ngemela egcwele igazi. Ngaba kukho iimfazwe ezibandakanyekayo? Ngaba iimela zaphukile? Okanye ubona nje iseti yekhitshi eneefolokhwe neecephe? Ngaba zigolide okanye isilivere? Njengoko ubona, zininzi izinto ezinokwenzeka, kwaye ndifuna ukukubonisa zonke.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ubulala?

Namhlanje ndiza kukubonisa ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngokubulala . Rhoqo, emva kokubukela imuvi yesenzo, i-thriller, okanye idrama, siba namaphupha ahambelanayo apho sibulala umntu. Kwenzeka into efanayo xa sibona ingxelo yeendaba malunga nokubulala kumabonwakude okanye kwiphephandaba.

Oku kwenzeka kuba ingqondo yethu engaphantsi kwengqondo isikhumbuza iindawo zobomi bokwenyani ezisichaphazela ngandlela thile. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ezi zenzo zolwaphulo-mthetho zibonakale ngathi zenzeke ngequbuliso. Ukubulala kuneentsingiselo ezininzi ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko zakho zangoku kunye nebali eliqhubekayo lephupha.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha amangcwaba?

Kweli nqaku malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngamangcwaba, ndiza kutyhila zonke iintsingiselo zalo phupha. Ubusazi na ukuba amangcwaba kunye namangcwaba avuselela intlonipho kubantu abangaphezu kwama-70% kwihlabathi liphela? Ngaba wakha waphupha ngelinye, ubona amabhokisi kunye namatye engcwaba abantu obaqhelileyo okanye abantu ongabaziyo? Asilophupha liqhelekileyo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uninzi lwenu belunomdla ngaxa lithile ebomini benu ngokuya emangcwabeni ebusuku.

Uninzi lwethu luyazibuza ukuba yintoni engaphaya kobomi, nto leyo enokukhokelela kumaphupha eebhokisi ezivaliweyo okanye ezivulekileyo, amatye engcwaba, okanye ingcwaba liphela. Kodwa zininzi iintsingiselo ezinokwenzeka kuxhomekeke kwimeko evezwa yingqondo yakho. Ungaphupha emini okanye ebusuku, kusenokuba kukho amangcwaba okanye iibhokisi, ungazifumana ufile, ingcwaba ngokwalo lisenokuba lihle, lidala, okanye libe lelabantwana okanye izilwanyana kuphela. Okanye nokuba ingcwaba liyinkangala.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha malunga ne-coronavirus?

Elinye lamaphupha axhaphakileyo kwiiveki zakutshanje leli. Yiyo loo nto sonke sifuna ukwazi intsingiselo yokuphupha nge-coronavirus . Uluntu lwethu lujongene nexesha elinzima, kwaye oku kubangele ukuba iingqondo nemizimba yethu isabele ngandlela thile.

Ngamaphupha sikwaboniswa yonke into esiyifumene kwingqondo yethu kwaye engasoloko ibonakala. Yiyo loo nto namhlanje, siza kufumanisa zonke iintsingiselo ezisinika iphupha apho kukho izifo okanye intsholongwane. Nika ingqalelo kuko konke oku!

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iinyosi?

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngeenyosi? Iinyosi zizinambuzane ezidlala indima ebalulekileyo eluntwini . Ubusi ezibuvelisayo kwiindlwane zazo sisondlo esinamandla esisisebenzisa kwizitya ezingenakubalwa. Zizihlela zibe yisakhiwo esintsonkothileyo ukuze zikhuphe impova kwiintyatyambo kwaye ngaloo ndlela zenze ubusi; zikwazi nokuzincama ukuze zikhusele ubomi beenyosi eziziinkosana.

Njengoko sisoloko sisitsho, intsingiselo yephupha iya kwahluka kakhulu kuxhomekeke kwimeko, ubuntu bakho, kunye neemvakalelo zakho. Liya kuba nentsingiselo eyahlukileyo ukuba udibana nendlu enkulu yeenyosi , ukuba uyalunywa, ukuba zihlasela umzimba wakho, ukuba ziyaphila okanye zifile, ubungakanani bazo, uhlobo lwazo, okanye ukuba zivela nezinye izinambuzane (umzekelo, iimbovane). Zonke iinkcukacha ziya kukunika ingcaciso echanekileyo ngakumbi.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha uhamba okanye uhamba?

Ukuba uyakuthanda ukuhamba, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuphupha ngokuthatha uhambo okanye ukuhamba ngenene . Xa uhamba emaphupheni akho, unokuzifumana ngeendlela ongazange uzicinge. Ungahlola elinye ilizwe ngenqwelo moya, ibhasi, uloliwe, okanye nayiphi na enye indlela yokuthutha. Uza kuzama izitya ezintsha, udibane nabantu abatsha, ufumane amava eenkcubeko ezahlukeneyo, kwaye ufumane izinto ezintsha ngawe.

Kodwa ukuba uqhubeka uphupha ngale nto, okanye ukuba iphupha alibonakali lineenkcukacha ezicacileyo, kufuneka ufunde ngentsingiselo yalo. Ukuze uqale ukutolika iphupha, siza kukunika isilumkiso esifanayo nesisinikayo nakweyiphi na iphupha: iimeko kunye neenkcukacha zephupha ziya kwenza umahluko omkhulu ekuchanekeni kokutolikwa kwalo.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iinkomo?

Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngeenkomo , eli nqaku liza kukuxelela yonke into. Ngokwemvelo, abalimi kunye nabo bahlala kufutshane nedlelo elineenkomo ezityayo banamathuba amaninzi okuphupha ngeenkomo . Kodwa akufuneki ube kufutshane nesilwanyana okanye ube nonxibelelwano naso ukuze ingqondo yakho ikubonise imifanekiso yazo.

Ndingafunga ukuba, ngaphandle kokuyibona, siyayazi inkqubo yokwenza itshizi, ubisi kunye nezinye iimveliso zobisi. Kungenxa yoko kufanelekile ukuba ucinge enye okanye nangaphezulu xa ulele.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha izithonga zemipu?

Xa umntu ephupha ngokudubulana , uyazibuza ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba iphupha lithetha ukuthini. Umfuziselo wokudubulana unzima, kodwa ngokubanzi umele amaxesha okubandezeleka anokubangela ukuphelelwa lithemba kumphuphi.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iinkawu?

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iinkawu

Iinkawu zizinto ezandulela abantu; sabelana ngexesha elidlulileyo eliqhelekileyo. Zizinto ezandulela uhlobo olukrelekrele kakhulu kwiplanethi yoMhlaba, mhlawumbi kulo lonke igalaksi. Yiyo loo nto iingcali zisithi ukuphupha ngeenkawu kunxulumene nobuchule bomntu bokucinga ngexesha lokuphaphama okukhulu.

Nangona kunjalo, intsingiselo yeli phupha ixhomekeke kwezinye izinto eziguquguqukayo, ezinje ngemeko eyenzeka kuyo, ubudlelwane bakho nesi silwanyana okanye ixesha oliphilayo.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iityesi?

Iisutikheyisi zibalulekile xa sihamba. Ukuba ungumthandi wohambo, umntu othanda ukuphonononga ihlabathi nokufumanisa iinkcubeko ezintsha, ukuphupha ngeesutikheyisi kuyinto eqhelekileyo . Kodwa izinto ziyatshintsha ukuba liphupha elivela ngokungazi, okanye ukuba liphinda libuye rhoqo. Inyani yile, ukuphupha ngeesutikheyisi kunentsingiselo efuziselayo, njengoko ziyinto eqhelekileyo kuluntu.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha izihlangu?

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngezihlangu? Namhlanje ndiza kuchaza elinye lala maphupha angengabo abaninzi kuthi ebomini bokwenyani. Oku kwenzeka rhoqo kubafazi, kuba izihlangu kunye nezicathulo , kunye nefashoni ngokubanzi, zihlala zijolise kubo.

Yonke imihla kufuneka sihambe umgama olungileyo, kwaye sikhathalele umqolo wethu, izihlangu ezilungileyo, kwanezihlangu zemidlalo, azikho mbi kwaphela. Esi sizathu kunye nezinye kutheni siphupha ngabo.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha amaphela?

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngeempempe? Iimpempe luhlobo lwesinambuzane esikhetha ukuhlala kwiindawo ezingcolileyo okanye xa ubushushu buphezulu kakhulu. Uninzi lweendlela ezitolikwa ngayo eli phupha zinxulumene nesidingo sokubona ubomi ngendlela eyahlukileyo, ukuba ixesha lifikile lokwenza utshintsho oluthile.

Kodwa kunokuthetha okungaphezulu. Ngokubanzi, xa siphupha iimpempe, yingqondo yethu esixelela ukuba sifuna utshintsho olukhulu . Kusenokwenzeka ukuba kukho into ekubambezelayo, nto leyo ebonisa ukuba udinga utshintsho lwengqondo ukuze woyise yonke into. Nangona kunjalo, zininzi iindlela zokutolika eli phupha, kuba kuya kuba luncedo kakhulu ukuba iimpempe ozibonayo zikhulu okanye zincinci, kunye nenani lazo.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngentaba-mlilo?

Kulula ukuphupha ngeentaba-mlilo ukuba ukhe wabukela imuvi ebonisa intaba-mlilo eqhumayo, ukuba ukhe wabukela idokhumentari malunga nentaba-mlilo kutshanje, okanye ufunde incwadi enxulumene nayo apho intaba-mlilo yatshabalalisa ilali.

Nangona kunjalo, unokuba namaphupha ngeentaba-mlilo ngaphandle kwesizathu, kuba i-subconscious ikuthumela umyalezo malunga neemvakalelo zakho kunye nezinye iinxalenye zobomi bakho ekufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha inkunkuma?

Kweli nqaku, uza kufunda ngokweenkcukacha ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngenkunkuma . Ukuba ufunda oku, mhlawumbi uphuphe iphupha elingaqhelekanga apho inkunkuma yayiyeyona nto iphambili ekugxilwe kuyo. Ayiqhelekanga kangako, kodwa iyenzeka kubantu abaninzi kunokuba ucinga.

Oku kwenzeka xa ukhe wanamava ngqo ngenkunkuma yasekhaya , umzekelo, ukuba ibhegi ikrazukile ekhaya yaza yachitheka phantsi, okanye ukuba ilori yenkunkuma ishiye ivumba elibi kwindawo okuyo. Nangona kunjalo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo ingabonakalisa oku ngendlela ebonakala ngathi yendalo. Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kutheni? Qhubeka ufunda.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iinkunzi?

Ngaba ufuna ukuqonda ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngeenkunzi neenkomo ? Iinkunzi zezona zinto zibalaseleyo zobugorha, amandla, kunye nokukholisa. Abanye abantu abazi ukuba zihlobene kakhulu nenyanga, ngenxa yendawo ezikuyo iimpondo zazo. Amaphupha ngeenkunzi zenkomo aqhelekile, ingakumbi kwiindawo apho kuqhubeka khona ukulwa kweenkunzi kunye nokubaleka kweenkunzi, njengakwimnyhadala yaseSan Fermín.

Ngaphambi kokuba siqale, kufuneka wazi ukuba ukutolikwa kuyahluka ngokuxhomekeke kumxholo wephupha lakho malunga neenkomo okanye iinkunzi. Akunjalo ukuba i-subconscious yakho ikubonisa inkunzi enoburhalarhume, ekusukelayo, emi bhuxe okanye ebalekayo ikuhlasele, nokuba yinkunzi enkulu okanye encinci…

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha igazi?

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha igazi

Kweli nqaku, ndiza kutyhila zonke iinkcukacha malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngegazi . Igazi yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yomzimba wethu. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, sihlala siliphupha ngesizathu esithile. Akukho ndlela inye yokufumana ingcaciso yokwenyani, njengoko ingqondo engaphantsi kwengqondo inokulityhila ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ukubhabha okanye ukubhabha?

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ubhabha ubuye uqhube? Ukuba uhlala uphupha ukuba ubhabha, kudla ngokuba yimbonakaliso entle. Eli phupha liqhelekile kubantu abangathanda ukuba namandla angaphaya kwawemvelo. Kwaye into yokugqibela esiyifunayo kukuvuka, kuba siyazi ukuba ekuphela kwendlela yokubhabha ngolu hlobo kukumaphupha ethu.

Kusinika uluvo olumangalisayo lwenkululeko, i-adrenaline, kunye nokuzimela ukuya naphi na apho sithanda khona. Khumbula ukuba kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokutolika ngokusekelwe kumxholo wephupha kunye nobuntu bakho. Kubantu abaninzi, ukubhabha kuthetha inkululeko , ukukwazi ukushiya zonke iingxaki zabo ngasemva, ngelixa abanye beziva benesizungu.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iimpukane?

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi intsingiselo eneenkcukacha yokuphupha ngeempukane ? Iimpukane ezibhabhayo ziphakathi kwezinambuzane ezicaphukisayo kakhulu, ingakumbi xa zininzi. Amaphupha ngazo aqheleke kakhulu kwiinyanga zasehlotyeni, xa ziphuma ngaphandle kwaye zihlala zifika emzimbeni wakho.

Ukuba oku kuyenzeka kuwe kuqhelekile, kuba kukho iindawo apho kukho ibubu elininzi kangangokuba ziphelela ekuzileni nasemlonyeni. Xa iphupha lakho linxulunyaniswa nala mava, akukho kutolikwa kuhlala kubangelwa kuko.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iimpuku?

Kweli nqaku, siza kuzama ukuchaza intsingiselo yokuphupha ngeempuku . Joyina nathi ukuze sifumanise yonke into. Izilwanyana ezimbini ezineempawu ezifanayo kakhulu , impuku kunye nempuku. Ngokubanzi, impuku sisilwanyana esibangela iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo; kwangoko nje ukuba ivele, impendulo yethu yendalo kukubaleka okanye ukuyinyamalala.

Sikwenza phantse ngokuzenzekelayo kwaye kunzima kakhulu ukuchaza ukuba kutheni umzimba uphendula ngolu hlobo, kodwa iimpendulo zethu zinxibelelene nengqondo yethu, ke impendulo iya kuhlala inxulunyaniswa neengcinga okanye amaphupha esinawo ngawo.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha uwela kwindawo engenamsebenzi?

Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokutolika amaphupha ngokuwela kwindawo engenanto . Ukuze ufumane izigqibo ezichanekileyo, kufuneka uqale ufunde esi sikhokelo uze ukhuphe intsingiselo ngokusekelwe kwiimeko ezivezwa yingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo kunye nokuziphatha kwakho ephupheni. Ngokwesiqhelo imele inxalenye ethile yobomi bakho, kodwa iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba ungayisombulula.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha izigebenga?

Xa uphupha ngezigebenga, mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba ukhe waziva ungaphantsi kwabanye ngaxa lithile, umntu ongabalulekanga kweli hlabathi. Ukugxekwa ngabazali bakho ngokungaphumeleli kuviwo, ukugxekwa ngutitshala esikolweni, okanye ukungavisisani nomphathi wakho emsebenzini kunokubangela olu luvo. Uziva umncinci xa uthelekiswa nabanye abantu, ungenamandla, awukwazi ukwenza nto.

Nangona kunjalo, ezinye iindlela zokutolika zinokwenzeka ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko zephupha. Umzekelo, akuthethi into efanayo ukuba usukelwa sisigebenga (funda ngakumbi ngokuphupha usukelwa ) ngokungathi ungumntu omkhulu onyathela ilali engenakuzikhusela . Ke ngoko, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ucinge ngazo zonke izinto ezinokwenzeka.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha amanani?

Kwintlalo yanamhlanje, siphila singqongwe ziinombolo ekufuneka sizikhumbule: inombolo yethu yefowuni, iinombolo zabahlobo bethu, usuku lokuzalwa, itikiti lelotho esilithengileyo xa siphumelela. Ke ngoko, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba namaphupha ngamanani , ingakumbi ukuba ungumntwana kwaye uneemvavanyo zezibalo, okanye ukuba kufuneka usombulule ingxaki enzima apho ungafumani zimpendulo zilindelekileyo. Kweli nqaku, ndifuna ukuchaza ngokweenkcukacha ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngamanani.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ibhayisekile?

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngebhayisekile ? Iibhayisekile ziyindlela yokuthutha eye yathandwa kakhulu kwiminyaka yakutshanje. Ziyindlela yokuhambahamba ngaphandle kokungcolisa okusingqongileyo, ngelixa usenza umthambo kwaye ugcina impilo yakho yomzimba isempilweni. Kukho ingcaciso ebanzi ngakumbi, leyo idla ngokunxulunyaniswa nabo bonke abaphuphayo, kodwa kukho ezinye ezingasoloko zisenzeka kwaye zingabalulekanga kangako.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ubuyile kwi ex yakho?

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ubuyile neqabane lakho langaphambili

Ukuphupha ngowayesakuba ngumyeni wakho luhlobo lwephupha esinalo uninzi lwethu ngaxa lithile. Eyona ntsingiselo ixhaphakileyo kukuba bekukho izinto ezingathethwanga kwaye zingasonjululwanga. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane buphele ngexesha elifanelekileyo, kwaye awuzange wazi isizathu sokuba bakushiye. Nokuba kunjalo, kudla ngokunxulumene nomsebenzi ongagqitywanga.

Nangona kunjalo, intsingiselo yokuphupha ngokubuyelana nomntu owayesakuba ngumyeni wakho , njengamaphupha amaninzi, inokwahluka kakhulu kwaye ayisoloko inxulumene nolwalamano lwakho lwangaphambili nomntu. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba unemicimbi engagqitywanga ebomini bakho ofuna ukuyisombulula.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha izinja?

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha izinja

Ukuba ufuna ukwazi zonke iintsingiselo zamaphupha ngezinja , qiniseka ukuba uyalifunda eli nqaku linomdla. Abantu abaninzi bakhetha izinja njengabahlobo babo abathembekileyo; zikhona kakhulu ebomini bethu. Ukuba sinenja njengeqabane, okanye siyazi umntu onalo, ukuphupha ngayo kuqheleke kakhulu kunokuba sicinga. Nangona kunjalo, nangona uninzi lweentsingiselo zilungile, amanye amaphupha ngezi zilwanyana zintle ayaphazamisa kancinci.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha udutyulwa okanye udutyulwa?

Namhlanje ndiza kukubonisa intsingiselo yokuphupha ngokudutyulwa . Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube yipolisa okanye uphathe isixhobo ebomini bakho bemihla ngemihla ukuze ube nephupha elibi elibandakanya ukudubula ngemipu. Liphupha eli, nangona lingaqhelekanga, linomdla kakhulu, njengoko linokubonisa iintsingiselo ezininzi kunye neempawu. Ngaphambi kokuba siqale, kufuneka wazi ukuba ukutolikwa kwephupha kuya kuxhomekeka kwimeko apho iphupha livela khona, kunye nobuntu bakho kunye nembono yakho yehlabathi.

Umzekelo, akufani nokuba nephupha uleqwa ngamapolisa kwaye uphethe umpu emva kokuba uphangile, njengoko kunjalo ukuphupha umntu ekudubula ngompu, ukuba uwufumene, okanye ukuba uphupha nje ukuba unayo ekhaya. Makhe sihlalutye ngokweenkcukacha ezinye zeemeko ezinokwenzeka.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha itsunami?

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngetsunami? Ukuba ngaxa lithile ebomini bakho ukhe waba neshwangusha lokuhlangabezana netsunami , okanye ukuba ilungu losapho lwakho alizange lisinde, kuyaqondakala ukuba usenokuba namaphupha amabi ngale ntlekele yendalo. Ukuba oku kuye kwenzeka kuwe kwaye uphile kule ntlekele inzima, akukho ngcaciso yamaphupha enokuyichaza ngokwenene: iphupha livela ngenxa yenkumbulo kunye nentlungu. Akwaziwa ukuba kutheni, kodwa ingqondo yomntu ivuselela amaphupha anxulumene nawo xa ukhe wahlangabezana nentlekele, mhlawumbi ukuze ikwenze womelele, okanye ikuncede woyise amava abuhlungu.

Khumbula ukuba zininzi iindlela zokuphupha ngeetsunami: itsunami isenokuba nkulu, amanzi acoceke ngokupheleleyo kwaye acwebe, okanye angcole kakhulu . Ngaba uyafa ephupheni, okanye uyakwazi ukusinda? Ngaba ihamba nenyikima? Ngaba ibangela umkhukula? Qhubeka ufunda ukuze uqonde ngcono intsingiselo kwaye uyisebenzise ngokuchanekileyo kwimeko yakho.