Ukuphupha ngamalungu osapho kuthetha ukuba yinto engenakuphepheka, ukuba singazi siziva sibophelelekile kwaye sikhuselekile nabantu ebomini bethu. Ukuba kuvela izalamane ezisondeleyo ephupheni, akuthethi ukuba sinengxaki, kodwa kuthetha ukuba kukho into ephinda iphindwe ngaphakathi kuthi, nto leyo enokubonisa inkalo ethile yobuntu bethu.
Kuyimfuneko ukwazi ukuba enye idatha ijikeleze iphupha ukuze ikwazi ukunika uhlobo oluthile lokutolika. Banokusilumkisa ukuba utshintsho olubalulekileyo luya kwenzeka kusapho okanye uhlobo oluthile lwesiganeko lunokuvela kwaye lubangele ukudana.
Kungathetha ukuba awukayiva intlungu yokulahlekelwa nguloo mntu . Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka uqaphele kwaye ukhumbule ukuba, ephupheni, elo lungu losapho lizama ukukuxelela into ethile; mhlawumbi kufuneka unikele ingqalelo.
Ukuba abazali abangasekhoyo bavela, oko kuthetha ukuba baya kukwazisa ukuba ubhengeze utshintsho oluhle ebomini bakho okanye isiganeko sokusweleka komntu omthandayo. Ukuba umzobo womzalwana ongasekhoyo uvela, ukunika izitshixo ezilungileyo zokuqhubela phambili neengxaki onokuthi ujongane nazo. Ukuba uphupha izibini ezifileyo okanye abantwana, ngokuqinisekileyo babhengeza utshintsho olukhulu njengokubhengezwa njengongenakho ukubhengezwa.
Mhlawumbi uphoswa lilungu losapho ongakhange ulibone ixesha elide, kwaye eli phupha lisenokumela umzuzu wokukhumbula izinto ezidlulileyo okanye usizi. Iintsingiselo zingahluka; mhlawumbi ulindele abantwana, kwaye oku kubonakala kumaphupha malunga nezalamane ezikude. Mhlawumbi kutshanje udlule kwimpikiswano ebalulekileyo yosapho kwaye uphoswa yinkxaso yamalungu osapho akude.
Enye yeentsingiselo kukuba mhlawumbi ezo zihlobo zingene kwisangqa sabo bantu balityelweyo. Kodwa ezantsi azilibalekanga njengoko kubonakala, kodwa i-subconscious yakho iyabona ukuba kuya kufuneka ulungise umba othile osalindileyo kunye nabo.
Olu hlobo lwephupha lukukhumbuza ukuba kukho ubudlelwane obunobungozi obekufanele ukuba ubushiye kudala, kwaye kukho iimeko ezikubonisa ukuba yonke into ebomini inokoyiswa. Kule ngcaciso, ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo isenokukukhumbuza ukuba ngaphakathi entliziyweni, kukho ingxaki ethile engasonjululwanga ebangela ukuba ungonwabi. Ukuba kukho ithuba lokuba nomsindo nomsindo ephupheni, oko kubonisa ukuba ilungu losapho lifumana uhlobo oluthile lokugula.
Ukuphupha ngabahlobo yinto eqhelekileyo ngexesha lokufikisa . Kukule nqanaba apho abahlobo baba ngabahlobo ababalulekileyo, babelane ngovuyo, iingxoxo, iimvakalelo kunye noxolelwaniso. Ukuba, kwelinye icala, sele ungumntu omdala, olu hlobo lwephupha lunokubonelela ngembonakalo engqondweni yakho; lunokubonisa nokufika kweendaba ezilungileyo.
Ukuphupha ngabahlobo bethu ebuntwaneni kuthetha ukuba kufuneka sijonge ubomi bethu . Kusimema ukuba sijonge ngaphakathi size sivavanye zonke iinguqu kunye notshintsho olwenzekileyo. Mane nje ujonge kwaye uphawule ngaphambi nasemva; kufuneka sixabise yonke into esingqongileyo nayo yonke into esinayo ngoku, ukuze sixabise indlela esihambe ngayo njengabantu ngabanye.
Kungabonisa ukuba singalindela ikamva elithembisayo . Kunokwenzeka ukuba kuhambisane nokuqala kohlobo oluthile lweprojekthi oqala ukuyiphuhlisa ngoku. Ukuphupha ngexesha elidlulileyo akufanele kukubambezele ekukhumbuleni izinto zakudala; ubomi bakho kufuneka buqhubeke. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ufezekisa amaphupha akho kwaye ezinye iingxaki zempilo ziyaphela.
Ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo isenokutolika umnqweno wakho wokwenza utshintsho oluncinci ebomini bakho ngendlela eyakhayo . Ikwinqanaba elihle, inomdla wokwamkela nayiphi na iprojekthi ngenzondelelo. Ubomi bakho bulungele utshintsho olukhulu; mhlawumbi uyakhula kwaye ufuna ukunikezela ubomi bakho kutshintsho olukhulu oluneembopheleleko, kuquka nokuqalisa usapho.
Ukuphupha ngolwandle kufana nokulangazelela elo xesha langoku lokungadibani nokuphumla . Kusenokwenzeka ukuba sidlula kwixesha elinzima kwaye sidinga iintsuku ezimbalwa zokuphumla ecaleni kolwandle. Ukuba kuvela abahlobo ephupheni, kuthetha ukuba eli xesha limangalisayo linokonwatyelwa ngeholide ekufaneleyo, ekwabelwana ngayo nabantu obathandayo. Kodwa olu hlobo lokonwaba lungamela nesidingo sokukhulisa yonke into ngononophelo nokhuseleko, kwaye ungavumeli ukuba woyiswe yimeko ngaphandle kokunyamekela kuqala into oyithandayo.
Ukuphupha umama wakho esweleka akumnandanga. Kwabaninzi liphupha elibi. Mhlawumbi eyona imbi banokuba nayo. Noko ke, oko akuthethi ukuba ngaxa lithile uya kuzifumana ukule meko. Kwaye ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini xa umama wakho esifa kunokukunceda ubone ukuba yintoni i-subconscious yakho efuna ukukuxelela yona.
Ngoko ke, ngeli xesha, siza kukunika iintsingiselo ezahlukeneyo ezikhoyo xa uphupha umama wakho esweleka.
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngomntwana , ufike kwindawo elungileyo kuba ndiza kuphendula yonke imibuzo yakho. Xa sinomntwana, sibona ukuba yeyona nto ixabisekileyo enokwenzeka kuthi kwaye itshintsha ubomi bethu.
Akukho nto izokufana kwabo bazali ukusukela ngalamzuzu, sinomntwana kwaye ixesha lifikile lokuba simtotobise ngoba umsulwa, simnike ukufudumala ukuze ahlaliseke kwaye amkhaphe kwinyathelo ngalinye izakuthatha ebomini bakho obutsha ukuba ungene emhlabeni.
Ebomini, kukho izinto ezithile wonke umntu aya kuzifumana ngaxa lithile; ubuhlobo bungomnye wabo . Yiyo loo nto ukuphupha ngabahlobo kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye into yokuba kuqheleke kangaka eluntwini ithetha ukuba kukho intsingiselo emva koko. Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni? Kweli nqaku, uza kufunda indlela yokutolika la maphupha , kodwa kuqala, masicacise iinkcukacha ezimbalwa.
Iingcaciso neempendulo ziyahluka kakhulu kuxhomekeke kumxholo wephupha. Akunjalo ukuba ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo ikubonisa abahlobo odlala nabo kwaye wonwabe nabo njengoko ikubonisa abahlobo abangasekhoyo kuba ubakhumbula . Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba uyifunde ngononophelo kwaye uqwalasele iimeko zakho zobuqu, eziya kuchaphazela nesigqibo sakho sokugqibela.
Ukuba usandul’ ukuphupha ngomntwana kwaye ungazi ukuba umchazele ntoni, ungakhathazeki, ndinesisombululo: kweli nqaku, ndiza kutyhila oko kuthethwa kukuphupha ngabantwana . Uninzi lwexesha xa siphupha into ethile, sifanele siyichaze ngaloo mzuzu kuba inxulumene nesiganeko esikufutshane nelo xesha. Ngaba wakha waziva ngathi ufanele umkhulule umntwana wakho wangaphakathi ? Njengokuba kufuneka ubuyele ekuziphatheni ngendlela owawuziphatha ngayo ebuntwaneni bakho, ngaphandle kokukhathazeka?
Abantwana ngokubanzi bafanekisela ubumsulwa, ulonwabo, umoya wokungakhathali, nothando ngayo yonke into. Kodwa ukuphupha ngabo kunokuba neentsingiselo ezininzi kuxhomekeke kwimeko evezwa yingqondo yakho. Umzekelo, ungaphupha ngomntwana owonwabileyo, usana olusandul' ukuzalwa, umntwana okhalayo, umntwana ogulayo, okanye nomntwana ofileyo . Ngaba umntwana umhlophe okanye umdaka? Ngaba umntwana ucocekile okanye ungcolile? Ngaba umntwana usisityebi okanye ulihlwempu? Umxholo ngamnye utolikwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Funda ngazo zonke ngezantsi.
Zininzi izizathu zokuba ungaphupha ulwa . Mhlawumbi ubukele imuvi kaBruce Lee, okanye ifilimu yesenzo egcwele iingxoxo kunye neengxabano. Umabonwakude usasaza umxholo ngokukhaba kunye neenqindi yonke imihla. Ukuba ulwe esikolweni okanye emsebenzini, usenokuba namaphupha amabi, okanye nokuba ubambe inzondo nomntu oye waxabana naye kakhulu kutshanje. Kweli nqaku, ndiza kuchaza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngokulwa.
Kodwa kufuneka uqwalasele nezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo ukuze ufumane intsingiselo yamaphupha , njengokuba ufumene ntoni kule mihla yakutshanje okanye imeko kunye nokuziphatha okubonakalisileyo ephupheni. Umzekelo, ukubona isilwa esitalatweni akuthethi into efanayo nokuphikisana ekhaya neqabane lakho okanye nomntakwabo. Ngaphezu koko, isenokuba yimfazwe phakathi kwezilwanyana ezifana nezinja, iikati, iiqhude, okanye iinkunzi . Kuninzi ekufuneka kukutolikwe, kwaye yiloo nto oza kuyifunda ngokulandelayo.
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi yonke into malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngokukhulelwa , kweli nqaku siza kuzama ukuchaneka kangangoko. Ukukhulelwa yenye yezona zihlandlo zikhethekileyo ebomini bomfazi. Ubomi bakho bukhula nzulu ngaphakathi kuwe, kwaye buza kutshintsha ubomi bakho ngonaphakade. Ngenxa yokuba linqanaba elibaluleke kakhulu, akuqhelekanga ukuphupha ngokukhulelwa , okanye nokuba sele ubambe umntwana wakho ezingalweni zakho.
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ufunde ukutolikwa kwamaphupha, kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba zininzi iimeko ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe. Ayizufana lonto xa sizibona simithi, ngokungathi omnye umntu ukhulelwe. Kananjalo ayizukufana into yokuba ukhulelwe inkwenkwe, intombazana, amawele, abathathu. Konke oku kwahluka kunesizathu sokubakho kwaye iya kuba yinto ekuya kufuneka siyifundile ukufumana intsingiselo ngqo.