Intsingiselo yamaphupha aqala ngonobumba M

Le yeyona ndawo ilungileyo yokufumana iinkcukacha ezilungileyo malunga nokutolikwa kunye nokuqhelaniswa namaphupha akho. Amaphupha ngamagama abhalwe unobumba M aya kuba ngalawo aya kukunika eyona ntsingiselo ukuze ucacise onke amanqaku ajikeleze kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.

Baza kukunceda ucacise ukuba zeziphi iimvakalelo ezibonakalisiweyo ngaphakathi kwamaphupha akho, kuba ngokuqinisekileyo iya kusenza sazane ngcono ngakumbi. Ukuba uphuphe ulwandle, ii-daisy, ii-apile, iimpukane, amabhabhathane ... ezinye zezi zinto ziya kukunika intsingiselo ethile ongathanda ukuyifunda ukuguqulela iimvakalelo zakho.

Intsingiselo yokuphupha amazinyo okanye ukuba amazinyo akho awe

Kukho iintlobo ngeentlobo zamaphupha xa kufikwa ekuphupheni ngamazinyo . Liyinyaniso elokuba amanye anokubonakala engenangqondo, kodwa anokuba nentsingiselo enzulu kakhulu kunokuba ebonakala. Uninzi lwamaphupha lunxulumene nendlela esibona ngayo ihlabathi, oko kwenzekayo kuthi kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla, okanye oko sikoyikayo, oko sikuthembayo, kunye nendlela esizibona ngayo.

Khumbula ukuba amaphupha ethu aveliswa yingqondo yethu engaphantsi kwengqondo , ziingcinga zethu. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuba siyazi indlela yokuwatolika, singoyisa nayiphi na imiqobo ebangelwa bubomi bethu. Le yenye yeziseko zendlela yokucinga kaSigmund Freud.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ibhokisi?

Ukuphupha ibhokisi yomngcwabo kudla ngokuthathwa njengephupha elibi. Ukuba kutshanje ulahlekelwe lilungu losapho okanye umntu obaluleke kakhulu kuluhlu lwabantu obaqhelileyo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba nephupha elinjalo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ibhokisi yomngcwabo ivele ngokungacwangciswanga ephupheni lakho, intsingiselo yayo ingahluka kakhulu.

Kweli nqaku, siza kuchaza iinkcukacha ezahlukeneyo malunga nentsingiselo yephupha lakho elibandakanya ibhokisi yomngcwabo , ukuze ukwazi ukulisebenzisa kwimeko yakho. Iingcali zokutolika amaphupha azihlali zidibanisa amaphupha ngeebhokisi zomngcwabo nentsingiselo engentle. Oku kunokunxulunyaniswa nomdla womphuphi wokufunda okungakumbi ngehlabathi elingaphaya kwendalo, ekutyhaleleni ngaphaya kwemida yokuqonda komntu, nasekuhloleni imilinganiselo emitsha. Ukutolika kufana nokuphupha ngamangcwaba ebusuku , okanye ngokufa.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ubulawa?

Ukuphupha ubulewe uze uvuke wothukile ngexesha lolwaphulo-mthetho kuqhelekile kunokuba ucinga. Kubo bonke ubomi, sifumana amaxhala amaninzi kunye noloyiko olungena ezingqondweni zethu, kwaye ngaxa lithile, oku kuthetha amaphupha amabi ahlukeneyo. Kodwa... zithetha ukuthini ngokwenene? Ukuze ufikelele kwizigqibo eziqinisekileyo malunga nephupha obulewe kulo, kufuneka uqale uhlalutye imeko eyenzeka kuyo. Ayinantsingiselo ifanayo ukuba umhlobo ukubulele njengokuba umntu ongamaziyo ebulala, okanye ukuba sisilwanyana osoyikayo.

Ngaphezu koko, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela imeko yakho yeemvakalelo kunye neemeko zangoku, kuba into elula njengokwenza isigqibo inokubangela iphupha elibi kangaka. Kukwaluncedo ukuqonda intsingiselo yokuphupha ngokubulala (ukuba nguwe obulala umntu) kunye nokuphupha ngokubulala (ukuba ukubonile njengomntu wesithathu okanye awubandakanyeki). Oku kuya kunika ulwazi olongezelelekileyo ukuze kugqitywe ukutolikwa.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ubulala?

Namhlanje ndiza kukubonisa ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngokubulala . Rhoqo, emva kokubukela imuvi yesenzo, i-thriller, okanye idrama, siba namaphupha ahambelanayo apho sibulala umntu. Kwenzeka into efanayo xa sibona ingxelo yeendaba malunga nokubulala kumabonwakude okanye kwiphephandaba.

Oku kwenzeka kuba ingqondo yethu engaphantsi kwengqondo isikhumbuza iindawo zobomi bokwenyani ezisichaphazela ngandlela thile. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ezi zenzo zolwaphulo-mthetho zibonakale ngathi zenzeke ngequbuliso. Ukubulala kuneentsingiselo ezininzi ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko zakho zangoku kunye nebali eliqhubekayo lephupha.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iinkawu?

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iinkawu

Iinkawu zizinto ezandulela abantu; sabelana ngexesha elidlulileyo eliqhelekileyo. Zizinto ezandulela uhlobo olukrelekrele kakhulu kwiplanethi yoMhlaba, mhlawumbi kulo lonke igalaksi. Yiyo loo nto iingcali zisithi ukuphupha ngeenkawu kunxulumene nobuchule bomntu bokucinga ngexesha lokuphaphama okukhulu.

Nangona kunjalo, intsingiselo yeli phupha ixhomekeke kwezinye izinto eziguquguqukayo, ezinje ngemeko eyenzeka kuyo, ubudlelwane bakho nesi silwanyana okanye ixesha oliphilayo.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iityesi?

Iisutikheyisi zibalulekile xa sihamba. Ukuba ungumthandi wohambo, umntu othanda ukuphonononga ihlabathi nokufumanisa iinkcubeko ezintsha, ukuphupha ngeesutikheyisi kuyinto eqhelekileyo . Kodwa izinto ziyatshintsha ukuba liphupha elivela ngokungazi, okanye ukuba liphinda libuye rhoqo. Inyani yile, ukuphupha ngeesutikheyisi kunentsingiselo efuziselayo, njengoko ziyinto eqhelekileyo kuluntu.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iimpukane?

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi intsingiselo eneenkcukacha yokuphupha ngeempukane ? Iimpukane ezibhabhayo ziphakathi kwezinambuzane ezicaphukisayo kakhulu, ingakumbi xa zininzi. Amaphupha ngazo aqheleke kakhulu kwiinyanga zasehlotyeni, xa ziphuma ngaphandle kwaye zihlala zifika emzimbeni wakho.

Ukuba oku kuyenzeka kuwe kuqhelekile, kuba kukho iindawo apho kukho ibubu elininzi kangangokuba ziphelela ekuzileni nasemlonyeni. Xa iphupha lakho linxulunyaniswa nala mava, akukho kutolikwa kuhlala kubangelwa kuko.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ukufa?

Akunakwenzeka ukubaleka ubomi ngaphandle kokujongana nokufa. Ukuphupha ngokufa kuyinto eqhelekileyo, ikakhulu ngenxa yokungaqiniseki kokungazi ukuba yintoni esilindeleyo emva kobomi, kunye noloyiko lokulahlekelwa ngabantu esibathandayo. Lidla ngokuba liphupha elibi eliza kusishiya sivukile sibile kwaye sibetha ngamandla. Ngokuchasene nenkolelo eqhelekileyo, iingcali kwi-psychoanalysis yamaphupha azisoloko zinika amaphupha intsingiselo engalunganga. Ukukhangela intsingiselo yokuphupha ngokufa kuqhelekile kakhulu.

Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuphupha ngomntu ofayo kunxulumene nophawu lothando ngaloo mntu, olubonisa umnqweno wokungamvumeli ahambe kwaye ungaphindi umbone (ungafumana ulwazi oluthe kratya ngale nto ngokufunda ngentsingiselo yokuphupha ngabahlobo abaswelekileyo ). Oku kungaba ngumhlobo, umntu osebenza naye, ilungu losapho, okanye iqabane lakho. Iintsingiselo zokuphupha ngokufa zahlukile kakhulu, kwaye iimeko zomphuphi kufuneka ziqwalaselwe ngononophelo. Kubalulekile ukunikel’ ingqalelo nakwinkcukacha ezincinci, njengoko yonke into inegalelo ekutolikweni ngokuchanekileyo. Apha, siza kuzama ukukubonisa amathuba anokwenzeka.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha umntu eswelekile?

Namhlanje ndiza kutyhila intsingiselo yokuphupha ngomntu ofileyo . Kukho amawaka amaphupha esinokuwaphupha, ukusuka ekuqabuleni okumnandi nomntu omthandayo ukuya kumaphupha ngabantu abafileyo. La maphupha angase abonakale esoyikeka, kodwa abantu abaninzi banala maphupha, ingakumbi abo basandula ukulahlekelwa lilungu losapho okanye umhlobo osenyongweni. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ukuphupha ngokufa kunokutolikwa ngeendlela ezininzi kuxhomekeke kumxholo wephupha, umntu obonakala kulo, kunye nolwalamano lwakho nabo. Umzekelo, ukubona utatomkhulu wakho (njengophawu lokumkhumbula) akunantsingiselo ifanayo nokuphupha ngotshaba olufileyo (olumela intiyo ozivayo ngalo kubo).

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha iingqekembe kunye namatyala?

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngeengqekembe okanye iimali zamaphepha? Amaphupha ngeengqekembe kunye neemali zamaphepha adla ngokunxulunyaniswa namabhongo. Phantse wonke umntu ukhuthazwa yimali, njengoko yindlela ekuphela kwayo esimele sisinde ngayo. Ke ngoko, kuqhelekile ukuba namaphupha apho imali yeyona nto iphambili, ingakumbi ukuba ungumqokeleli weengqekembe zakudala, okanye ukuba uneshishini eliwayo okanye ujongene nobunzima bokuphila.

Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ingcaciso ngokubanzi ingabonakala ingacacanga, kwaye usenokungazi ukuba ukuphupha ngeengqekembe kuthetha ukuba uza kufumana imali eninzi , wenze izigqibo ezifanelekileyo emsebenzini, okanye ujongene nobunzima obukhulu bezemali. Ukuba uhlolisisa nzulu intsingiselo, uya kuqonda ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu nokuba uphuphe ngeengqekembe zegolide okanye zesilivere, nokuba zezomgunyathi, zezemali, zingcwatywe, zibiwe, okanye zifunyenwe, okanye nokuba nguwe obeziba.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha amalulwane?

Amaphupha adla ngokuvela kwisiganeko samva nje okanye ekubeni udibene nomntu okanye into ethile. Ukuba usandul’ ukubona i-"The Dark Knight" evela kwiBatman, uye kwi-safari, okanye utyelele i-zoo enamalulwane , kuya kuba sengqiqweni ukuba ingqondo yakho ikhumbule imifanekiso yezi zilwanyana. Leyo yindlela yokutolika. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba awuzange ube kufutshane namalulwane, ndikucebisa ukuba uqhubeke ufunda eli nqaku malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngamalulwane.

Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba siqale, kufuneka wazi ukuba iphupha malunga nelulwane lingatolikwa ngeendlela ezininzi . Akuthethi into efanayo ukubabona befile bephila, ukubabulala, nokuba bakhulu okanye bancinci, nokuba bayakuhlasela kwaye bakulume okanye banoxolo kodwa bafumaneka endlwini. Uyabona? Kukho amathuba amaninzi, ngalinye linentsingiselo yalo.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha umtshato?

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngomtshato? Umtshato unokuba linqanaba elibaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakho, elinye lawona mahle kakhulu. Ekugqibeleni uya kukwazi ukuvakalisa uthando lwakho kuloo mntu ukhethekileyo, lowo uza kuchitha naye ubomi bakho bonke, mhlawumbi nokuba nomntwana. Ucinga ngaloo nto, kuyaqondakala ukuba amadoda nabafazi abaninzi baphupha ngokuthatha eli nyathelo libalulekileyo.

Umtshato usivumela ukuba sibe ngabalinganiswa abaphambili besiganeko, nokuba kungosuku olunye kuphela. Ukuphupha ngomtshato kunokubonakalisa umnqweno wakho wokutshata , nangona iimeko zephupha ziya kuyichaphazela indlela etolikwa ngayo: akufani nokubona umtshato wakho njengoko kunjalo nokubona owomhlobo. Kananjalo akufani nokuba umcimbi wawungowobuzwe ngokuchasene nowonqulo. Umbala welokhwe yomtshato, nokuba umcimbi uqhubekile okanye uphazamisekile, nawo kufuneka uqwalaselwe.

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Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ulwandle?

Ngaba ufuna ukuqonda ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngolwandle? Ulwandle oluluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka luyinxalenye yendalo apho uluntu belungenakubakho ngaphandle kwayo. Lumela inkululeko ngenxa yobukhulu balo nobunyulu ngenxa yobushushu balo. Amaphupha adla ngokunxulunyaniswa nezi mvakalelo zimbini, kunye nokwaneliseka kunye nolonwabo. Uhlalutyo lwamaphupha lusifundisa ukuba bobabini abafazi namadoda bacinga ngalo ngelixa belele ngaxa lithile, nokuba kungenxa yokuba bedlula kwinqanaba lokuziva bekhululekile, kuba bekwixesha lokudala, okanye ngenxa yenkumbulo yokudada emanzini besebancinci elunxwemeni.

Mhlawumbi ugqibile izifundo zakho kwaye into yokuqala efika engqondweni lulwandle, ulwandle, iholide elunxwemeni . Okanye mhlawumbi ugqibile umsebenzi oza kukuvumela ukuba uthathe ikhefu elingenaxhala. Kuqhelekile ukuphupha ngezi zinto ngendlela ephumlayo , kwaye uvuka uzive uhlaziyekile ngokupheleleyo. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko yephupha lakho, ingcaciso iya kwahluka. Akufani nokuba ulwandle luzolile okanye lunesiphithiphithi, luphazamisekile okanye luxakekile, lucocekile okanye lungcolile, okanye ukuba ulusondele emini okanye ebusuku. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukujonga iinkcukacha.

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