Iphupha elibi kukulala okuphazanyiswa yinkumbulo esibangele uxinezeleko olukhulu. Ngaloo mzuzu, sivuka ngokubanzi siziva sisoyika kwaye sixhalabile. La maphupha amabi adla ngokuvela xa singene kwisigaba se-REM sokulala kwethu, kwaye ngokubanzi sinethuba lokukhumbula oko sikuphuphileyo.
Olu hlobo lwento luqheleke kakhulu ebantwaneni nakubantu abakwishumi elivisayo, lufikelela kwi-50% yamatyala kubantwana abaneminyaka ephakathi kwemi-3 nemi-6 ubudala. Kubantwana abakwishumi elivisayo, ludla ngokunxulunyaniswa nenqanaba labo lokukhula, kodwa xa lubonakala kubantu abadala, lubangela inkxalabo.
Ukwazi ngokwenyani ukuba liphupha elihlasimlis 'umzimba, umntu olifumanayo uvuka ephazamisa kwaye esoyikisa. Mhlawumbi nokulala kwakhe kumvusile kwaye uva ukuba intliziyo yakhe ibetha ngokukhawuleza.
Iphupha libonakala liyinyani, yiyo loo nto umntu eziva ekhathazekile kangangokuba kunzima nokuba abuye nokulala noxolo lwengqondo, kuba ayisivumeli ukuba sicinge kakuhle. Iinkcukacha zephupha zikhunjulwa ngokuqinisekileyo.
Amaphupha amabi ngamanye amaxesha anokubangelwa zizinto ezininzi. Usenokuba ube namava amabi ngaloo mini, wabukela into ongayithandiyo, okanye umzimba wakho usenokungasebenzi kakuhle. Xa amaphupha amabi exhaphakile, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uhlobo oluthile loxinzelelo luyakoyisa. Olu hlobo lwesifo lubizwa ngokuba yi-"parasomnia."
Izizathu zokuba namaphupha amabi zibandakanya:
Ukuphupha uleqwa yimeko ebuhlungu kakhulu nebangela uxinzelelo olukhulu. Kubonisa ukuba udlula kwixesha elinzima kakhulu ngokweemvakalelo , elikutyhalela kwimida yakho. Ngeli xesha lobunzima, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ujongene nemeko engasonjululwanga ohlala uzama ukuyityeshela kwaye uyihlehlise.
Umzuzu wokubandezeleka owuphephayo, emazantsi enimba ukuze ukwazi ukujongana noloyiko ubuso ngobuso. Mhlawumbi uhlangabezana notshintsho olukhulu lomntu, ukwahlukana, ukugula ... ngandlela thile okanye enye, uyazi ukuba kufuneka ujongane nenyani kwaye oko kudala uloyiko.
Lixesha lokukhungatheka , ukungabi namandla, kunye nokungaphumeleli. Ufuna ukubaleka kuba umntu ekusukela okanye uziva ufuna ukubaleka kuba ungxamile, kodwa inyani yile, umzimba wakho uyaqina.
Konke oku kuyafana nokubandezeleka kokuzithemba okuphantsi kunye nokungazithembi okukhulu. Ephupheni utolika iinzame zokubaleka ukuze wenze into eyenziweyo, kodwa inyani yokungahambeli phambili ikhuphela ngaphandle xa ubeka loo mida kuwe, ozibekele yona.
Ngaphantsi kolu hlobo lokuboniswa kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuphucula ukuzithemba, ufumane ukuzithemba ngakumbi. Ukubaleka kuthetha ukuba sizama ukwenza nayiphi na iprojekthi kwaye siziva sisoyika ukusilela. Kukuba nomonde kuphela kwaye uya kuyibona indlela edlula ngayo kuwe.
Ukuphupha uhamba ze kwindawo kawonke-wonke kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Olu hlobo lwamaphupha ludla ngokubangela uloyiko; siba nexhala kwaye sisoloko sizama ukufihla okanye ukufumana into yokuzigquma.
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo ngumzekelo ocacileyo wokungazithembi. Olu hlobo lwamaphupha ludla ngokuzibonakalisa kubantu abahamba umzuzu wokuzithemba okuphantsi okanye uhlobo oluthile localucalulo kubomi babo boluntu.
Nangona kunjalo, indlela yokuphupha inokuthetha ngokucacileyo ezinye iintlobo zokukhetha:
Ukuba ubonakala uhamba ze ephupheni, oko kunokutolikwa njengokufihlwa kobuxoki . Uyoyika ukufunyanwa kwaye abanye banokukufumanisa, yiyo loo nto uziva ungakhululekanga kwaye ungakhuselekanga.
Ukuba kwelinye icala awunampahla kwaye uzive ukhululekile, iya kufana nento yokuba uziva ukhululekile kwaye ukhululekile. Isibonakaliso sokuzibona ungenanto kuwe kuthetha ukuba uthathe ubunzima emagxeni akho, ukuba uhamba umzuzwana ebomini bakho apho uziva ukhululekile.
Ukuwela kwindawo engenanto liphupha eliqhelekileyo. Sidla ngokuphupha siwa, kwaye ngexesha lokubetha, siyavuka. Lingachazwa njengephupha elibi kuba libandakanya ukuziva uvukile kwaye ukhathazekile.
Olu hlobo lwamaphupha lunxulunyaniswa noloyiko oluncinci okanye uloyiko lokufa. Mhlawumbi luloyiko oluncinci lokuphulukana nolawulo lobomi bakho kwaye siyibonakalisa ngoluvo lubi emzimbeni wethu, apho siwela khona kwaye asikwazi ukubambelela kwinto.
Ukuba namaphupha amabi xa ungumntu omdala kubonisa ukuba uneenkxalabo ezininzi ezikungqongileyo . Uloyiko, amathandabuzo, kunye nokungaqiniseki kudala ukungazinzi ngokweemvakalelo kwaye zizinto zengqondo ezinokuphazamisa ubuthongo bakho. Amaphupha amabi anokuvela kumava adlulileyo abuhlungu okanye mhlawumbi anxulumene nexesha lokungakhathali ngenxa yokugula.
Eyona ntsingiselo iqhelekileyo yentsingiselo yayo idla ngokunxulumene nomba wengqondo, njengalowo ukhankanyiweyo ngaphambili. Ingabangelwa lutshintsho olukhulu lweemvakalelo olwenzekayo olunzima ukulucubungula okanye ukululawula.
Akukho nyango luthile lokuthintela amaphupha amabi. Njengenyathelo lokuthintela, ungazama ukufumanisa unobangela wezi ziganeko ukuze usombulule ingxaki. Kubalulekile ukuzama ukuzithintela ukuba zingenzeki kuba zichaphazela ubomi bethu, zichaphazela umgangatho wokulala kwaye zinokuthintela impilo-ntle iyonke.
Njengamanyathelo othintelo sinokuphakamisa uthotho lwamanyathelo:
Ngaba wakha wavuka ukhathazekile emva kwephupha elibi apho waphangwa khona? Ukuphupha ngokuba uphangwa akuqhelekanga ; ngaxa lithile ebomini bethu, sinokuzifumana sikuloo meko emaphupheni ethu.
Kodwa ngaba inentsingiselo? Ukuba uyayiqwalasela kwaye kukho iinxalenye zephupha ozikhumbula ngokucacileyo, apha siza kuzama ukwenza ingqiqo yento i-subconscious yakho izama ukukuxelela yona.
Ngaba ufuna ukwazi intsingiselo epheleleyo yokuphupha ngezandyondyo ? Kwimeko yamaphupha, izikhukula zinxulunyaniswa nokuvulwa kweendlela ezintsha ebomini bethu, kunye notshintsho oluya kufuna ukuziqhelanisa. Olu tshintsho luya kutshintsha ubuntu bakho, iingcamango zakho, indlela oziphatha ngayo, kunye nendlela oxabisa ngayo ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ingqondo yakho ikuthumela imifanekiso ngamaphupha ukukunceda uqonde indlela yonke into eya kutshintsha ngayo kunye nokuba amaxesha amahle namabi aya kuba njani.
Njengakwezinye iiphupha eziphathelele amanzi , kufuneka zilungelelaniswe kwaye zilungelelaniswe neemeko zakho zangoku, kunye neenkcukacha ezithile ezivele ephupheni. Akuyi kufana nokuba umkhukula wawunamanzi acacileyo, acacileyo, okanye ukuba wawungcolile kwaye wawunamaza amakhulu agubungela isixeko ngokupheleleyo.
Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokutolika amaphupha ngokuwela kwindawo engenanto . Ukuze ufumane izigqibo ezichanekileyo, kufuneka uqale ufunde esi sikhokelo uze ukhuphe intsingiselo ngokusekelwe kwiimeko ezivezwa yingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo kunye nokuziphatha kwakho ephupheni. Ngokwesiqhelo imele inxalenye ethile yobomi bakho, kodwa iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba ungayisombulula.
Ukholelwe okanye ungakholwa, iphupha ngalinye linokuchazwa kwalo, nokuba libonakala lingaqhelekanga kangakanani. Le yinto eyenzekayo ebantwini xa bephupha ngeenaliti . Ngokubanzi, intsingiselo yazo inxulunyaniswa nokungonwabi komphuphi. Iipini ziluphawu lwezihlabo, iintlungu, kunye neentlungu ezisifikela imihla ngemihla. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka wazi ukuba amaphupha ngeenaliti ayahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko ezenzeka kuyo, kuba ukuphupha ngeenaliti ezininzi eziza kugqobhoza umzimba wakho akufani nokuphupha ubambe iphini ezandleni zakho kwaye uthungela ngokuzolileyo esofeni yakho ekhaya.
Ukuba ukhe wahlangabezana nonyikimo okanye olunye unyikimo olukhulu ebomini bakho, njengentlekele yendalo, kuqhelekile ukuba ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo ikubuyisele loo mzuzu kuwe, njengohlobo loxinzelelo ekufuneka ulwenze. Kunzima ukuba ingqondo yakho ilulibale ngokwenene, ngoko ke luhlala luvela emaphupheni akho. Usenokuba ulahlekelwe ngumntu kwimeko enjalo yendalo. Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngonyikimo? Masihlolisise intsingiselo yalo.
Ngaphambi kokuba siqale ukuhlalutya iphupha, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela izinto ezibangele ukuba liphuphe. Iphupha ngalinye lixhomekeke kwimbono yalo, ngoko ke kuya kufuneka sicinge ngokuba ukungcangcazela bekusemhlabeni okanye ekhayeni lakho, nokuba kuchaphazele indlu yakho okanye ukuba yawa, nokuba amandla ayo aphezulu okanye abuthathaka, nokuba kuchaphazele abantu obathandayo , mhlawumbi yayiyitsunami kwaye amanzi yayiyeyona nto iphambili. Ukuqwalasela onke amathuba kuya kwenza kube lula ukuseka ipateni.
Ulutsha kunye nabantwana ngabona badla ngokuba namaphupha amabi ngokusukelwa . Enyanisweni, intsingiselo yale phupha ayilunganga, kwaye uhlala uvuka intliziyo yakho ibetha ngamandla, uxhalabile, ungaphumli, kwaye uzive kakubi emlonyeni wakho. Kweli nqaku, uza kufunda ngokweenkcukacha ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha usukelwa . Nangona kunjalo, intsingiselo yale phupha elibi yahluka kakhulu kuxhomekeke ekubeni ngubani okusukelayo kwaye uzama ukuzimela.
Ngaba uyahlaselwa? Ngaba baza kukubulala? Ngaba uzama ukubaleka kodwa awukwazi? Ngaba uyawa phakathi kokubaleka? Ngaba yayisisilo esikusukelayo, njengenja okanye inyoka, isilo, ipolisa, okanye mhlawumbi isalamane osityala imali? Ngaba ukwazile ukubaleka? Njengoko ubona, ukutolika oku kuyahluka kakhulu ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko zephupha, imeko elivela kuyo, imeko yakho, kunye nexesha odlula kulo.
Iphupha elibi elinokwenzeka nangaliphi na ixesha ebomini bethu kukuphupha ngomtyholi okanye iidemon . UMtyholi unamagama amaninzi: uSathana, uBhelezebhule, uLilith… Nokuba liliphi igama, iphupha linokuba libi kakhulu, kwaye kuqhelekile ukuba umntu ophuphayo avuke ebila ebanda ngenxa yokubetha kwentliziyo okukhawulezayo. Oku kufanele kutolikwe njani?
Kule nqaku, apho sixoxa khona ngentsingiselo yokuphupha ngomtyholi, siza kuhlola iindlela ezinokwenzeka zokutolika. Ukuba okwangoku uziva ungaqinisekanga, ukuba uloyiko noloyiko luyakoyisa xa kufikwa ekupheliseni ubudlelwane, okanye ukuba awukwazi ukwenza isigqibo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba amava amabi ayavela kwakhona kwaye akwenze uzive ungakhululekanga. Oku kwaziwa ngokuba " ziidemon eziphoswe kwindawo yokulibala ." Mhlawumbi uye waphula imigaqo yakho yento ethile, okanye ulahlekelwe yimbono yakho yento owawukholelwa kuyo ekugqibeleni eyaba yimpazamo. Ukuze siqonde intsingiselo, kufuneka sihlalutye umxholo ovezwe yingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo: akuyi kuthetha into efanayo ukudibana nomtyholi ekwimo yomfazi, ukumbona noThixo, ukumbulala, okanye ukumbona ekuphatha kwaye ekubamba. Ezi zezinye zeendlela ezinokwenzeka zokutolika.
Namhlanje ndiza kutyhila oko kuthethwa kukuphupha ngentolongo . Kukho amaphupha aphindaphindwayo ubusuku ngabunye kwaye abonakala engaqhelekanga. Enyanisweni, kukho isizathu esichaza yonke into, yiyo loo nto ulapha. Ngokwesiqhelo, la maphupha anxulumene nesimo sengqondo somntu, kunye nesazela sakhe. Kuqhelekile ukuba neemvakalelo zokufuthaniseka, uxinzelelo, kunye nokungabikho kwenkululeko. Kukwatolikwa njengokuzibamba kwaye ungenzi izigqibo ongathanda ukuzenza, kuba impazamo enye inokukhokelela kwintlekele.
Ukuba ubukele imuvi kutshanje ebonisa ukubiwa kwabantu, njengeThe Boston Strangler, idokhumentari ehlola iingqondo zabathimbi, okanye ingxelo yeendaba ezibuhlungu malunga nomntwana olahlekileyo, unokuba namaphupha afanayo njengendlela yokubonakalisa uxabiso lwakho ngobomi bakho. Kodwa akufuneki ukuba ubone isiganeko esinjalo ukuze kwenzeke eli phupha libi. Kweli nqaku, ndiza kuchaza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngokubanjwa kwabantu.
Kodwa kufuneka wazi ukuba ukuthinjwa ephupheni kunokubangelwa zizizathu ezininzi, ingasathethwa ke ngempembelelo yomxholo kunye nemeko ojongene nayo kwintsingiselo yephupha. Akufani nokuba ngumthinjwa njengokuba kunjalo ukubanjwa nokubaleka , okanye ukuba kwenzeka ukubulawa , okanye ukuba umntwana wakho, usana, okanye nawuphi na umntu omthandayo uthinjiwe. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukufunda ezi ngcaciso zilandelayo kunye nohlalutyo lwengqondo ngokweenkcukacha.
Kweli nqaku malunga nentsingiselo yokuphupha ngeengozi , siza kujonga zonke izinto ezinokwenzeka nganye nganye. Kukho iintlobo ezininzi zeengozi: imoto, isithuthuthu, inqwelo moya, uloliwe... kwaye kungekuphela nje iingozi zendlela, kodwa nezo zasekhaya: ukwaphuka umlenze, ukuwa, ukukruneka kweqakala. Nokuba kunjalo, la maphupha adla ngokuba nentsingiselo engalunganga enxulumene noloyiko lokungaphumeleli , ukufa, ukuqhekeka kobudlelwane, kunye neengxabano.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ngumntu oqhele ukwenza izinto eziphathelele imimoya ukuze uphuphe ngebhodi ye-Ouija . Nangona kunjalo, abantu abaneenkolelo bathanda ukuba namaphupha anjalo—abo bakholelwa kwiidemon, iingelosi, kunye nemimoya evela kwamanye amazwe. Ngaba ungomnye wabo?
Oku kuyenzeka naxa umntu omthandayo esweleka; kufuneka uqhagamshelane naye ukuze nithi ndlela-ntle, nisombulule iingxaki ezingagqitywanga, nibaxelele izinto enizigcinele zona, okanye nibazise ukuba niyabathanda (funda ngakumbi ngokuphupha izalamane ezingasekhoyo ). Ngoko ke, athetha ukuthini kanye kanye amaphupha malunga neentlanganiso zomtshato kunye neebhodi ze-Ouija? Ndiza kutyhila yonke into ngezantsi.
Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngamagqwirha? Amagqwirha awenzelwanga abantwana kuphela. Ngokwesiqhelo ngabantwana abancinci abanokuba namaphupha amabi, kuba xa sasisengabantwana sasiboyika, kunye nezilo, iziporho , kunye neevampire . Abantu abadala nabo baphupha ngabo. Umzekelo, ukuba ukhe wabukela imuvi malunga nobugqwirha okanye ubugqwirha, njengoHarry Potter, kuyavakala ukuba ubuya kuba namaphupha amabi malunga namagqwirha kunye nobugqwirha ngobo busuku.
Nangona kunjalo, kubantu abadala, amaphupha anokuvela ngokuzenzekelayo ngaphandle kokudibana nobugqwirha ngaphambili. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba siqale, khumbula ukuba ayizizo zonke iiphupha zobugqwirha ezinentsingiselo efanayo. Ungabona igqwirha libhabha ngentonga yalo yomtshayelo , lilungile okanye libi, likuphose ngesiphoso, okanye likuleqe likuhlasele. Ngaba lihle okanye libi linentsumpa empumlweni? Ngaba liyahleka okanye liyalila? Ngaba liphethe ikati okanye lihamba nedemon (kwimeko enjalo, kubalulekile ukufunda okungakumbi ngokuphupha ngeedemon nokuthandaza )? Umxholo ubalulekile, ngoko ke siza kuqala ngengcaciso ebanzi size siqhubekele kweminye ecacileyo.
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngomlilo , eli nqaku liza kutyhila zonke iinkcukacha. Ingakumbi ehlotyeni, imililo emininzi iyenzeka kwiindawo ezinamahlathi. Ukuba uhlala kwindawo ekufutshane, usenokuba nephupha ngomlilo ovela kuwo, kwaye oko kuya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo. Ngokufanayo, mhlawumbi ukhe wawubona omnye endlwini yommelwane wakho okanye kweyakho, nto leyo ngoku ekubangela amaphupha amabi. Kodwa ikwanazo nezinye iintsingiselo ezininzi.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, iphupha eliquka umlilo livela engqondweni yakho ngenxa yexesha loxinzelelo , uxinzelelo lomsebenzi okanye iimviwo, okanye linokubangelwa kukulahlekelwa yinto exabisekileyo. Lisenokuba ngumphumo wokuvakalelwa ngathi ixesha liyaphela ngenxa yesiganeko kwaye uzive uxinezelekile ngumsi womlilo.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubukele imuvi efana neDracula okanye iTwilight , okanye uye kwiindawo ezikude njengeTransylvania, ukuze uphuphe ngeevampire . Kubo bonke abalandeli bolu hlobo, ungafumana uthotho, iimuvi, kunye neencwadi ezibonisa ezi "gazi" zibalaseleyo, ezidla ngokunxulunyaniswa nohlobo lwezoyikekayo. Ukuba uqhubeka uphupha ngeevampire kwaye ufuna ukwazi ukuba zithetha ukuthini, qhubeka ufunda.
Ukuba ubusoloko ubona iindaba ezininzi zemfazwe kutshanje, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba namaphupha ngemfazwe . Kunjalo nokuba ufunde incwadi okanye ubukele imuvi malunga neeMfazwe zoMkhosi. Ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo ifunxa ulwazi oluninzi kangangokuba lugqibela ngokukukhumbuza ngalo ngelixa ulele. Musa ukumangaliswa kukuphupha ngeziganeko zemihla ngemihla zazo zonke iintlobo. Ukulwa esikolweni, iingxabano nabazali bakho, kunye nezinye iimeko zinokuvusa olu hlobo lwemifanekiso.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uqinisekile ukuba uphuphe ngemfazwe ngokungacwangciswanga, kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba kukho isizathu esingaphaya kokungacwangciswanga nje. Ukuba unokusichaza, uya kuzazi ngcono kwaye ukwazi ukukhula njengomntu.
Ukuba ukhe wamangaliswa kukuphupha uhlatywe ngekrele , kufuneka wazi ukuba baninzi abantu abanamava anjalo. Eli phupha libi liqhelekile phakathi kwabantu abathile. Ngaphezu koko, xa sele ulifumene kanye, kusenokwenzeka ukuba liphinde libuye ebusuku okanye ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo ebomini bakho.
Yiloo nto ngamaphupha, emva kwayo yonke loo nto: aphethe iimfihlakalo kunye namabali anzima ukuwasombulula, kodwa xa uwasombulula, uza kuzazi ngcono kwaye ufumane izinto ongazange uzicinge. Kodwa kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha uhlatywa? Funda eli nqaku kunye nezinye izinto ezikwisichazi- magama samaphupha.
Abantwana abancinci ngabona badla ngokuba namaphupha aphindaphindayo malunga neziporho . Ezi zihlala zizidalwa zamaphupha ezingenamzimba, ezigqunywe ngamashiti amhlophe, aphumayo. Ukuba umntwana ukhe wayibona ephupheni, uya kucinga ukuba ikho ngokwenene aze acele abazali bakhe ukuba bashiye isibane sepaseji sivuliwe, bajonge iikhabhathi, okanye bajonge phantsi kwebhedi ukuqinisekisa ukuba akukho nto apho.
La maphupha aqheleke kakhulu kwiiyure zasekuseni, xa ingqondo ikhululekile ngokwaneleyo ukuvumela iingcinga zabantwana abancinci ukuba ziqhube ngamandla. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka wazi ukuba eli phupha alipheleli ebantwaneni kuphela; likwachaphazela nabantu abadala abaninzi kunokuba ucinga. Ukuba ukhe waliphupha eli phupha, kufuneka wazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngemimoya.