Ukuphupha ngabafazi nabantwana abancinci okanye iintsana ezisandul’ ukuzalwa kuneentsingiselo ezininzi, njengoko kuqhele ukwenzeka. Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, zilungile. Abanye bathi kulungile ukujonga emva ngamanye amaxesha, ngelixa abanye becinga ngeenjongo zethu kunye neemvakalelo zethu.
Kuyinyani ukuba kwakhona, ukuphupha amantombazana okanye abancinci kufuneka kuhlalutywe kuxhomekeke kwindlela esibabona ngayo ephupheni. Ke ngoko, sikushiya lonke olu lwazi lubalulekileyo ongafanele uluphose. Fumana yonke into ekufuneka uyazi!
Uyazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngabantwana ? Kaloku, lelinye lawona maphupha aqhelekileyo, kwaye xa ulitolika, kufuneka uzame ukuhlalutya yonke into ebonakala ephupheni. Kodwa xa ubuyela ekuphupheni ngamakhwenkwe okanye amantombazana, intsingiselo ebanzi kukubuyisela iinkumbulo zakho zobuntwana , ukulangazelela elo xesha lihle, kunye nokuthatha inyathelo lokubuyela umva kwixesha ukuzama ukuphinda ufumane olo lonwabo.
Kukho konke oku, sinokuthi ukuphupha abantwana abancinci sisidingo sokufuna ubomi obuzolileyo, ngaphandle kwamaxhala okanye uxinzelelo. Sifuna ukonwabela njengangaphambili, kwaye siqhubeke nokuphupha. Oku kunokuba lolona toliko luqhelekileyo lokulala cwaka, apho kungekho zothuko. Khumbula ukuba luhlobo lwephupha elinxulunyaniswa nobumsulwa kunye nobunyulu kunye nolonwabo, ngokubanzi.
Ukuphupha abantwana abancinci kunokuba neentsingiselo ezahlukeneyo. Enye yezona zixhaphakileyo kukuba, ngaphandle kokuba liphupha elihle, lithetha utshintsho ebomini bakho . Uza kuthatha inyathelo eliya phambili, kodwa libe ngcono. Lixesha elifanelekileyo lokwenza izigqibo ezivuthiweyo.
Kwelinye icala, ukuphupha ngabantwana abancinci kukwafanekisela inyathelo lokubuyela umva kwixesha . Oko kukuthi, ukubuyela kwelinye ixesha, kodwa kungekuko ebuntwaneni, njengoko besitshilo ngaphambili. Mhlawumbi kufuneka uthathe eli nyathelo kuba uziva uxinezelekile kwaye uxinezelekile, ngoko ke kufuneka ulungise le ngxaki ukuze uqale ngokutsha. Udinga nje ukuphefumla kancinci, uthathe ikhefu elifutshane, kwaye izinto ziya kucaca kungekudala kunangaphambili.
Ukuba uphupha ngabantwana abancinci abangaziwayo: Uya konwaba inqanaba lokonwaba kakhulu.
Ukuphupha abantwana abaswelekileyo: Kufuzisela utshintsho emsebenzini okanye ukuphoxeka kodwa nakule ndawo.
Ukuphupha abantwana bedlala: Sibuyela kwimvakalelo yolonwabo kunye nokukhululeka kuzo zonke iindawo zobomi.
Ukuphupha ngeentsana ezisandul’ ukuzalwa kubonisa ukuba sinobuthathaka ngakumbi kwaye sibuthathaka kunokuba sinokucinga . Ubuncinane, yiloo nto abanye abasibona ngayo. Ngamanye amaxesha siziva sisodwa, kodwa kufuneka nje sixelele abantu abafanelekileyo. Xa usombulula oku, uya kuqala ukubuyela ebomini ngokwenene.
Ukuba uphupha ukuhleka kweentsana, baya kuthi babonakalise ixesha elifanelekileyo lezoqoqosho kunye neendaba ezintsha ezithandekayo kwesi sihloko.
Ukuba uphupha ubambe usana oko kuthetha ukuba ukhusela kakhulu abo bakungqongileyo.
Ukuphupha amawele abantwana kukuba uza kuba nethamsanqa kwicandelo leemvakalelo kwaye xa kufikwa kumba wokwenza usapho.
Ukuphupha unomntwana kuthetha ukuba ukwinqanaba lokuyila, kodwa usadinga ukunyanzelwa ukuba yonke into ihambe ngendlela oyifunayo. Kwakhona kubonisa umnqweno wakho wokuqala usapho kwaye unike lonke uthando onalo.
Ukuphupha umntwana oleleyo kubonisa ukuzola . Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukuzola kakhulu kubomi bemihla ngemihla kunokukhokelela ekubeni ungabi namdla neqabane lakho okanye usapho lwakho. Kufuneka sitshintshe loo nto.
Ukuphupha usana olulilayo lelinye lawona maphupha aphindaphindwayo. Kodwa inokutolikwa njengokuba sikumzuzu wobomi bethu apho simiswe khona. Ukongeza, ikwabonisa ingozi esiyenzileyo kumhlobo kunye nomntu esimthandayo.
Kuyinyani ukuba soloko sihamba umgama omde. Oko kukuthi, ukuhlalutya ngakumbi ukuba wayenjani umfazi okanye waziva njani ephupheni. Ukusukela ngelo xesha kuphela apho sinokufumana ukutolikwa ngokuchanekileyo.
Ukuphupha ngabafazi abahle kuthetha impumelelo kwimicimbi yentliziyo . Ukuba uphupha umfazi onobubele kakhulu, oku kunokutolikwa njengeendaba ezimnandi emsebenzini.
Ukuba ephupheni ulwa nomfazi, oko kubonisa ukuba ezinye iinkxalabo ziza ebomini bakho. Akukho mfuneko yokuba zibaluleke kakhulu, kodwa ziya kukunika ixesha elinzima.
Ukuphupha umfazi ehamba ze ke ngoko kufana nokuba ubudlelwane bakho abuhambi kakuhle kwixesha elifanelekileyo kwaye mhlawumbi kukho ukungathembeki okubandakanyekileyo.
Ukuba uphupha umntu obhinqileyo othetha nabanye abantu, ke lumka kuba ukuhleba kunye nokuhleba kuyakukhathaza.
Ukuphupha kwabafazi abaliqela kunokubonisa ukungathandabuzeki kwicandelo elinomdla. Ukungabinazimvakalelo zicacileyo kwaye ngenxa yoko, ukudana okukhoyo kule ndiza.
Ukuphupha ngomfazi okhulelweyo kuthetha amathuba amatsha . Ukuba nguwe okhulelweyo ephupheni, kunokutolikwa njengokucinga ngento ethile, uhlobo oluthile lweprojekthi, oluza kuzaliseka kungekudala. Iingcinga okanye iinjongo ezintsha ziya kuqala ebomini bakho. Ukuphupha ngokukhulelwa kudla ngokunxulunyaniswa nobutyebi kunye nempumelelo.
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngomntwana , ufike kwindawo elungileyo kuba ndiza kuphendula yonke imibuzo yakho. Xa sinomntwana, sibona ukuba yeyona nto ixabisekileyo enokwenzeka kuthi kwaye itshintsha ubomi bethu.
Akukho nto izokufana kwabo bazali ukusukela ngalamzuzu, sinomntwana kwaye ixesha lifikile lokuba simtotobise ngoba umsulwa, simnike ukufudumala ukuze ahlaliseke kwaye amkhaphe kwinyathelo ngalinye izakuthatha ebomini bakho obutsha ukuba ungene emhlabeni.
Ukuba usandul’ ukuphupha ngomntwana kwaye ungazi ukuba umchazele ntoni, ungakhathazeki, ndinesisombululo: kweli nqaku, ndiza kutyhila oko kuthethwa kukuphupha ngabantwana . Uninzi lwexesha xa siphupha into ethile, sifanele siyichaze ngaloo mzuzu kuba inxulumene nesiganeko esikufutshane nelo xesha. Ngaba wakha waziva ngathi ufanele umkhulule umntwana wakho wangaphakathi ? Njengokuba kufuneka ubuyele ekuziphatheni ngendlela owawuziphatha ngayo ebuntwaneni bakho, ngaphandle kokukhathazeka?
Abantwana ngokubanzi bafanekisela ubumsulwa, ulonwabo, umoya wokungakhathali, nothando ngayo yonke into. Kodwa ukuphupha ngabo kunokuba neentsingiselo ezininzi kuxhomekeke kwimeko evezwa yingqondo yakho. Umzekelo, ungaphupha ngomntwana owonwabileyo, usana olusandul' ukuzalwa, umntwana okhalayo, umntwana ogulayo, okanye nomntwana ofileyo . Ngaba umntwana umhlophe okanye umdaka? Ngaba umntwana ucocekile okanye ungcolile? Ngaba umntwana usisityebi okanye ulihlwempu? Umxholo ngamnye utolikwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Funda ngazo zonke ngezantsi.
Okokuqala, ukuba ukhulelwe, akukho nto yokoyika. Nangona abanye bethetha ukuthini, amaphupha awaprofeti, ngoko ke, ukuphupha ngokukhupha isisu akuthethi ukuba uza kuba naso . Eli phupha livela ngakumbi xa udlula kwixesha losizi okanye ukudakumba, ukuba uziva ulahlekelwe yinto exabisekileyo kuwe. Eli phupha lixhaphake kakhulu kubafazi abaphakathi kweminyaka eli-15 nengama-50. Ukuba kutshanje ukhe wahlangabezana nesiganeko esibuhlungu njengokulahlekelwa ngumntwana, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo iya kukudlala ngamaqhinga ngelixa ulele.