Ukuba i-subconscious yakho izise kuwe ngokungalindelekanga, ukuphupha ngeenkala kumela inkalo ethile yobomi bakho bothando enxulunyaniswa nothando—oko kukuthi, ubudlelwane obuza kuhlala ixesha elide nangona kukho iingxaki. Ngaphezu koko, abantu abaninzi badla ngokuphupha ngeenkala, ingakumbi abo bazibona yonke imihla okanye abanohlobo oluthile lokunxibelelana rhoqo ne-crustacean.
Kodwa kukho iintlobo ezininzi zamaphupha apho inkala inokuvela khona, nganye inentsingiselo eyahlukileyo. Oku kungenxa yokuba umxholo utshintsha indlela etolikwa ngayo; oko kukuthi, ukuphupha inkala yezilwanyana zasekhaya etankini yeentlanzi (okubonisa uxolo lwangaphakathi eluthandweni) akufani nokuphupha inkala ikusukela kwaye ikuhlasele ngeenzipho zayo (uloyiko lokuzibophelela). Ke ngoko, ndicebisa ukuba ufunde onke amathuba okufikelela kwizigqibo zakho ngokusekelwe kwimeko yakho yeemvakalelo.
Intsingiselo yephupha loononkala
Ukuba uphupha uleqwa ziinkala ezininzi kwaye uzive usoyika okanye usoyika, oko kuthetha ukuba uyoyika ukuzibophelela kubudlelwane obuhlala ixesha elide. Ngaba uyoyika into enokwenzeka kwixesha elizayo? Awuthandani? Ngaba kukho isizathu esithile esifihlakeleyo esibandakanyekayo, kwaye ngaba ubudlelwane bakho abunampilo? Kufuneka ufunde nangokutolikwa kwamaphupha aquka ukuleqwa . Ngaba ukhe wabona inkala ihamba phambi kwakho? Kuthetha ukuba unobuntu obuhlala buhleli . Uthanda ukucaphukisa abanye kuba uhlala ujikeleza, kwaye kufuneka uhloniphe indawo yabantu.
Ukuba uphupha uxhawulana nenkala uze uyibambe uzipho lwayo, oko kubonisa ukuba wanelisekile bubuhlobo bakho nothando ebomini bakho. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ikuhlasela ngequbuliso, oko kuthetha okwahlukileyo: uwedwa kwaye ungenanto. Ukuba usandul' ukuqala ubudlelwane kwaye uphupha iinkala, oko kuthetha ukuba uxabana kakhulu nesoka lakho okanye intombi yakho (jonga okungakumbi malunga nokuphupha uxabana ) kwaye kufuneka uthathe izinto ngoxolo ukuze ubudlelwane bungapheli. Ukuba ephupheni ubulala isilwanyana, oko kuthetha ukuba ucinezela iimvakalelo zakho ngomntu, ufihla iimvakalelo zakho zokwenyani ukuze ungazilimazi okanye uzenzakalise omnye umntu.
Kubalulekile ukujongana nomculo kwaye uthembeke ukuze ususe umthwalo kwaye uyeke ukubandezeleka kube kanye. Ukuba uphupha inkala isondela kancinci kancinci kuwe, inxulunyaniswa nesidingo sokuhlalutya nzulu ubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo esikhawulezileyo. Kwelinye icala, ukuba isondela komnye umntu, kuthetha ukuba umntu ukhuphisana nawe ngenxa yeemvakalelo zakho, kwaye kufuneka ulungelelanise isenzo sakho ukuze ubaphumelele ngaphambi kokuba kube semva kwexesha. Akukho nto iphumeleleyo, akukho nto izuziweyo!
Ngaba uyayitya i-crustacean? Ukuba awufuni ukuyitya, okanye awukayityi kutshanje, oko kuthetha ukuba usenokuba neengxabano ezininzi neqabane lakho , kangangokuba ukuba anizisombululi ngokukhawuleza, ziya kukhokelela ekwahlukaneni.
Utolike njani iphupha lakho ngononkala?
Yabelana ngezimvo zakho ngentsingiselo oyinike iphupha lakho malunga neenkala . Ngaphandle kweengcaciso ezingasentla, zininzi ezinye iimeko ezinokwenzeka ezinokuba zenzeke kuwe, apho usenokuba uthethe intsingiselo ethile, nokuba kungenxa yemeko yakho okanye indlela eyenzeka ngayo ibali.
Iboniswe yintoni i-subconscious yakho? Zeziphi ezona zinto uzixhalabeleyo? Abafundi bayakuthanda ukuva malunga netyala lakho.
Ukuba ulifumene liluncedo eli nqaku malunga nokuphupha ngeenkala , ndicebisa ukuba undwendwele amanye amanqaku anxulumene nalo kwicandelo lamaphupha ezilwanyana.
