Namhlanje ndiza kutyhila intsingiselo yokuphupha ngomntu ofileyo . Kukho amawaka amaphupha esinokuwaphupha, ukusuka ekuqabuleni okumnandi nomntu omthandayo ukuya kumaphupha ngabantu abafileyo. La maphupha angase abonakale esoyikeka, kodwa abantu abaninzi banala maphupha, ingakumbi abo basandula ukulahlekelwa lilungu losapho okanye umhlobo osenyongweni. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ukuphupha ngokufa kunokutolikwa ngeendlela ezininzi kuxhomekeke kumxholo wephupha, umntu obonakala kulo, kunye nolwalamano lwakho nabo. Umzekelo, ukubona utatomkhulu wakho (njengophawu lokumkhumbula) akunantsingiselo ifanayo nokuphupha ngotshaba olufileyo (olumela intiyo ozivayo ngalo kubo).
Intsingiselo yokuphupha umntu ofileyo
Ukuba ephupheni lakho kuvela umntu ekunika icebiso, kodwa eneneni sele efile, oko kuthetha ukuba uthembele kuye ukuba akunike isikhokelo, kwaye ngoku ungasebenzisa uncedo lwakhe ukuze uphume kwindawo enzima. Uzama ukwenza ngokwembono yakhe. Ngaba uxambulisana nomntu ongasaphiliyo? Oku kubonisa ukuziva unetyala ngengxabano obunayo naloo mntu kwaye ungazange uyisombulule ngaphambi kokuba asweleke. Funda okungakumbi malunga nokuphupha uxambulisana apha.
Ukuba uphupha umntu omthandayo oswelekileyo enxibe iimpahla ezimhlophe , oko kubonisa ukufika kwabo ezulwini, apho bakhoyo noThixo kwaye umphefumlo wabo uhlambulukile. Ukuba uphupha umama womhlobo wakho osenyongweni oswelekileyo , oko kuthetha ukuba ukhathazekile ngomhlobo wakho, osenokuba ujongene nexesha elinzima kwaye ufuna inkxaso yakho ukuze aloyise. Ngaba sisalamane sakho esiswelekileyo esikunika iingcebiso ezibalulekileyo? Eli phupha libonisa ukuba kufuneka ucinge ngezigqibo oza kuzenza kungekudala. Ngaba uza kutyala imali kwishishini? Ngaba uza kuqhawula umtshato kodwa awuqinisekanga?
Ukuba uphupha usemoyeni (jonga ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngeenqwelo-moya ) kwaye umntu owafa kudala ehleli ecaleni kwakho , oko kuthetha ukuba sele eyingelosi yakho ekhuselayo, kwaye kuyakuthuthuzela ukwazi ukuba uya kuhlala umkhumbula. Enye ingcaciso inokuba kukuba lo mntu wafa engozini, kwaye ngoku kufuneka ulumke ngakumbi xa uhamba. Ukuba unephupha apho umoya womntu osandula ukusweleka ubonakala kuwe ukukuxelela ukuba uze kuthatha umhlobo, oko kubonisa uloyiko lwakho lokulahlekelwa ngomnye umntu, njengoko ukufa kwakhe kushiye isithuba kuwe, kwaye awufuni ukuba kwenzeke kwakhona ixesha elide. Kwakhona, fumana intsingiselo yokuphupha ngemimoya.
Ekuqaleni, amaphupha ngabafileyo asenokukuphazamisa, kodwa awasoloko enentsingiselo engalunganga. Enyanisweni, ngamanye amaxesha la maphupha ayathuthuzela kwaye abonisa into enzulu, njengokuphela kwesigaba esinye kunye nokuqala kwesinye. Makhe ndichaze. Njengoko unokucinga, iphupha libonisa ixesha olidlulayo , iinkxalabo zakho kunye neminqweno yakho. Ke ngoko, kuyanceda ukuqonda kanye ukuba lithetha ukuthini ukuze ukwazi ukujongana neengxaki zakho ngempumelelo enkulu.
Olunye utoliko lwamaphupha nomntu oswelekileyo
Ukuba uphupha umntu omthandayo esifa kodwa ephila ngenene, oko kuthetha ukuba unento engagqitywanga ekukhathazayo, njengengxoxo, amathandabuzo, impikiswano engagqitywanga, umbuzo ekufuneka umbuze wona…
Ukuba uphupha umhlobo wakho osenyongweni esweleka, oko kubonisa uloyiko oluzivayo lokulahlekelwa nguye ngokwenene, kuba bathetha lukhulu kuwe kwaye ubungazi ukuba ungakha njani ubomi bakho. Kodwa kukwabonisa umgama okhulayo phakathi kwakho naloo mntu.
Ngaba umntu obumthembile usweleke ngokupheleleyo, kwaye uphupha ngaye? Oku kuthetha ukuba ungazuza kwizifundo zobomi bakhe kunye neengcebiso zakhe zokoyisa ubunzima obukuthintela ukuba ungaphumli. Ngaphandle kwenkxaso yakhe, ufumana kunzima ukuqhubela phambili.
Ukuba umntu osondeleyo kuwe uyasweleka, kudla ngokutolikwa njengophawu lokuba kufuneka umnike ingqalelo ngakumbi loo mntu, kuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba ujongene nexesha elinzima kwaye udinga inkxaso yabathandekayo bakhe. Lumka ngendlela ophatha ngayo kwaye umhlonele.
Ngokubanzi, amaphupha ngokufa athetha ukuba kukho into oyithandayo kakhulu (into, umntu okanye isilwanyana sasekhaya) kodwa awusenakuyifumana kuba uyilahlile.
Kwaye uziva ntoni xa uphupha? Belinjani iphupha lakho elibi kwaye ulitolike njani? Ndixelele kumagqabantshintshi, ke uya kunceda abafundi ukuba batolike ezabo ngeembono ezingakumbi.
Ukuba ufumene eli nqaku malunga nentsingiselo yokuphupha ngomntu ofileyo linomdla, ndicebisa ukuba ufunde okungakumbi kwicandelo A.
