Amaphupha ngokuhlanza aqhelekile, kodwa ingcaciso yawo iyinkimbinkimbi kunokuba ibonakala. Ukuze sifikelele kwingcaciso efanelekileyo, kufuneka siqale siqonde kakuhle ukuba sithetha ukuthini xa sihlanza ; isisu sinomatshini wokukhusela okhupha izinto ezibangela iingxaki emzimbeni wethu, kwaye sikwenza oko ngale nto. Ukuba into yonakele, ukuba kukho i-asidi egqithisileyo emzimbeni, okanye ngenxa yezinye izizathu ezininzi, ukuhlanza yindlela umzimba wethu oza kuzisusa kuloo meko ingathandekiyo.
Ngokusekwe koku, ngoku sinokuzibeka kwimeko. Ewe, ayizukufana ukugabha inyongo, igazi, iintshulube, okanye iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zemibala. Nditsho nokubona ukugabha komnye umntu. Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo ekufuneka zilinganisiwe.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ukugabha?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuphupha ngokuhlanza kuthetha ukuba sikwimeko esicinga ukuba ayinakwenzeka ukuyisoyisa , imeko esingenakukwazi ukuyishiya ngasemva. Siziva sixinezelekile, sixinezelekile, kwaye sixinezelekile—into esicinezelayo ekufuneka sizikhulule kuyo. Nangona kunjalo, le yingcaciso eqhelekileyo: kuya kuba yimfuneko ukuphonononga nzulu uhlalutyo lwephupha lethu, sihlolisise iinkcukacha zalo kunye nezinto zalo, ukuze sifikelele kwingcaciso yokugqibela echanekileyo.
Ngokubanzi, iphupha elinje limele imeko esifuna ukuyiphepha okanye ukuzikhwebula kuyo—inyani enzima. Siziva sicinezelwe yinto esicinezelayo, kwaye sifuna inkululeko. Kodwa, ngaphandle kolu hlalutyo ngokubanzi apho ukwaliwa kwento okanye umntu yeyona nto siyixhalabeleyo, kubalulekile ukuphonononga nzulu uhlalutyo lwengqondo lwamaphupha, kuba izinto ezihlanjiweyo, abantu abakhoyo, kunye nendawo zonke zichaphazela utoliko lokugqibela. Nangona kusenokubonakala kungabonakali njalo, iphupha malunga nokuhlanza akufuneki libe libi. Umzekelo, ukuba uzive ukhululekile emva kokoyisa iingxaki zakho, ukuhlanza kuthetha ukushiya zonke izinto ezimbi ngasemva, uzikhulule kuzo.
Iphupha lokugabha igazi
Nangona kungenakulunga kwilizwe lokwenyani, ukuphupha uhlanza igazi kubhekisa kuthando, kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba utyhubela imeko embi neqabane lakho, okanye uza kuba nengxaki ngokungathandwa ngabantu abaninzi.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo izama ukukuxelela ukuba awonwabanga kulwalamano kwaye kufuneka ucinge kwakhona malunga nokuba uqhubeke na naye okanye hayi. Ungafunda ngakumbi ngentsingiselo yephupha elibandakanya igazi.
Ukuphupha ugabha iintshulube
Kwimeko enjalo, iimpethu zinxulunyaniswa neengxaki ezifuna ukupheliswa ngokukhawuleza, into enokuba yingxaki kakhulu. Umzekelo, zinokuchaphazela umsebenzi wakho, umntu okukhathazayo ngandlela thile, okanye into oyenzileyo okholelwa ukuba ayilunganga kwaye ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo ihlala ikukhumbuza ngayo. Kufana nephupha langaphambili: ukuba uzive ungcono emva kokuzikhupha, kuthetha ukuba usemendweni ochanekileyo. Ungakuqonda oku ngcono kakhulu ukuba ufunda malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngeempethu.
Iphupha lokugabha ilindle
Inxulumene nesidingo sokuyeka uloyiko lwethu , ukujongana nemeko esicinezelayo nebangela uxinzelelo olukhulu. Ihlala isenzeka kubantu abangazithembiyo, abaneentloni okanye abathuleyo, abanesibindi sokwenza into ethile, okanye abathatha amanyathelo angafanelekanga. Ungafunda okungakumbi ngamaphupha endlela yokusela kunye nendle.
Ukuba uphupha umntu egabha
Ukubona umntu osingqongileyo ehlanza kuthetha ukuba udinga uncedo , kodwa uyoyika ukucela uncedo. Basenokuba nengxaki enkulu, kodwa abenzi nto ukuyisombulula.
Ukuba ngenene ndiyaphuma ndiye apho unokunika khona isandla, kuya kufuneka uthathe inyathelo, kuba uza kuziva ungcono kakhulu kwaye uya kuba nakho ukomeleza ubudlelwane bakho.
Ukuphupha ukuba umntwana uyagabha
Ukuba unabantwana, kusenokwenzeka ukuba inxulumene ne-vertigo oyifumanayo xa ungazi ukuba ungamelana njani nokuba ngumzali . Inganxulunyaniswa nobuntwana obungenazinjongo; intsingiselo yephupha kweli tyala inxulunyaniswa nokuzibona njengomntwana olahla into ongayithandiyo.
Ndiphuphe ndigabha phakathi kwabantu
Oku kuthetha ukuba uyoyika ukuzenza isidenge phambi kwabanye. Usenokuba noxinzelelo, uxhalabile, kwaye uvuke ubila ubanda ezinzulwini zobusuku. Eyona ntsingiselo ixhaphakileyo yeli phupha iphathelele ekufuneni imali kunye nokoyika ukuyicela kwilungu losapho okanye kumhlobo, njengoko usenokucinga ukuba uza kusilela.
Ukuphupha ukugabha de kuphume amazinyo
Kwanamandla okuhlanza anokubangela ukuba amazinyo akho awe. Kule meko, ungafunda nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha amazinyo akho ewa.
Umboniso ngentsingiselo yokuphupha ukugabha
Siyazi ukuba lonke olu lwazi malunga nokuphupha uhlanza lunomdla. Ungafunda ngakumbi ngamaphupha aqala ngoonobumba u- V.
