Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngebhayisekile ? Iibhayisekile ziyindlela yokuthutha eye yathandwa kakhulu kwiminyaka yakutshanje. Ziyindlela yokuhambahamba ngaphandle kokungcolisa okusingqongileyo, ngelixa usenza umthambo kwaye ugcina impilo yakho yomzimba isempilweni. Kukho ingcaciso ebanzi ngakumbi, leyo idla ngokunxulunyaniswa nabo bonke abaphuphayo, kodwa kukho ezinye ezingasoloko zisenzeka kwaye zingabalulekanga kangako.
Ukukhwela ibhayisekile emhlophe entle akufani nokuba ibiwe, yaphulwe , okanye ilahlekile. Ngaphezu koko, ukuze uyiqonde ngokwenene intsingiselo, kufuneka kuqwalaselwe enye into eguquguqukayo: iimeko zakho zobuqu, njengoko intsingiselo inokuba ntle okanye ingabi ntle kuxhomekeke kwinto ojongene nayo. Ngaphandle kokuchitha ixesha, makhe sihlolisise onke amathuba.
Iyintoni intsingiselo yokuphupha ngeebhayisikile?
Enye yeemfuno zokukhwela ibhayisekile ngaphandle kokuwa kukuba nokulinganisela. Yiyo loo nto iingcali zengqondo zitolika ibhayisekile njengemele ukulinganisela onakho okanye okudingayo ebomini bakho . Ngamanye amazwi, ukuba ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo ikubeka ukukhwela ibhayisekile ngoxolo endleleni kwaye uyonwabele indawo entle, oko kubonisa ukuba ukwixesha lokuzinza ngokweemvakalelo, lokuzola ngaphakathi kuwe.
Kodwa kukho ezinye iinguqulelo ezininzi zamaphupha , ezinye zazo ezibonisa ukuba akupheleli nje ekukhanyeni kwelanga kunye nomnyama. Usenokuba nengozi ngequbuliso apho waphuka ilungu lomzimba, okanye ngengozi (okanye ngabom) wagila isilwanyana, uguqula iphupha libe yiphupha elibi. Kuthetha ukuthini oku?
Olunye utoliko lokuphupha malunga nokukhwela ibhayisekile
Ukukhwela ibhayisekile kuthetha ukuba unako ukuzenzela izigqibo zakho, ngaphandle koncedo lomntu. Uyayazi indlela yakho, ngoko ke ungavumeli nantoni na okanye umntu akuphazamise. Ukuba unesifiso, qhubeka naso.
Izinto zingatshintsha, umzekelo, ukuba ubungaqhubi ibhayisekile, kodwa ubambe umqolo womhlobo wakho.
Oku kubonisa ukuba awukwazi ukuzimela, kufuneka ukhokelwe ngabanye abantu, nto leyo ingeyonto imbi nokuba; unayo nje ubuntu bakho.
Ukuba uphupha uqhuba ngesantya esiphezulu kakhulu , oko kubonisa ukuba ungxamile kwizinto. Ngaba ugqibe ekubeni utshate nomntu ongamaziyo ixesha elide? Ngaba uza kuqalisa ishishini kwaye ubeke ukhuseleko lwemali losapho lwakho esichengeni?
Cinga kancinci malunga nezinto oza kuzenza, ngakumbi ukuba ngumbuzo obaluleke kakhulu.
Ukuba ukhwela ibhayisekile ngaphandle kweebhuleki, oko kuthetha ukuba uqala ukulahlekelwa lulawulo ebomini bakho , nokuba ngumsebenzi okanye yonke imihla.
Kwakhona, cinga ngale nto uyenzayo kuba unokufumana utshintsho olukhulu kwaye olungenakulungiseka. Jonga zonke iindlela ezinokubakho kwaye, ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha ikhosi, yenza njalo.
Ukhe waziswa ngenduli ekunzima ukuyinyuka?
Kuthetha ukuba ukwelixa apho kuya kufuneka wenze umzamo owongezelelweyo ukufezekisa injongo: iiyure ezingaphezulu zokufunda ukupasa iimviwo, sebenza nzima ngakumbi ukuhlangabezana noko kufunekayo okanye ukuhlawula imali mboleko yendlu yakho ...
Inyani enomdla ngale nto kukuba ukuba ukwazile ukukhwela ibhayisekile yakho unyuka loo nduli ulele, kungenxa yokuba wenza umsebenzi olungileyo kwaye wenza umzamo omkhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha, wenza kakuhle kangangokuba unyuka induli ngaphandle kweengxaki.
Ukuba uyayithanda ibhayisekile okanye ibhayisekile yakho ithetha lukhulu kuwe, ungaphupha ukuba ibiwe. Iibhayisekile ezibiweyo zikwamela uloyiko lokuba into embi yenzeke , lokuba into exabisekileyo ithathwe kuwe. Lwela into oyifunayo, ungaze unikezele!
Ukuba ibhayisekile yaphukile , kungenxa yokuba wenza iimpazamo kwezinye zezenzo zakho, kwaye ngaphakathi entliziyweni uyazi ngaloo nto. Mhlawumbi umvise ubuhlungu umhlobo wakho kwaye awuzange uxolise, yiyo loo nto uphupha ukuba le nto ixabisekileyo yaphukile.
Inyaniso yokuba luhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, obomvu, omthubi, njl njl, ayinamsebenzi kakhulu, ibonisa nje ukuba uyathandana ngemibala ethile. Endaweni yoko, umhlophe ufuzisela ubunyulu.
Ukuba ulifumene liluncedo eli nqaku malunga nentsingiselo yokuphupha ngebhayisekile , ndicebisa ukuba ufunde amanye kwicandelo lamaphupha aqala ngonobumba u- B.
