Phakathi koko ndikuxelele kona kweli nqaku malunga nokuphupha iinciniba kunye noncedo lwesichazi-magama sethu samaphupha, uya kuba nolwazi olwaneleyo lokuqonda into ephupheni lakho elalizama ukukuxelela yona ngelixa ulele. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uya kuphupha uhlobo oluthile lwesirhubuluzi. Sele sithethe ngokutolikwa kwamaphupha ngeenyoka , iifudo, njl. Ngamanye amaxesha, la maphupha avela ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo, kodwa ingqondo engaphantsi kwengqondo izama ukusinika into enentsingiselo. Ukuba usandul’ ukubukela imuvi enenciniba, ufunde incwadi ngazo, okanye utyelele indlu yezirhubuluzi, kuya kuba sengqiqweni ukuba nolu hlobo lwephupha.
Intsingiselo yokuphupha ngamacilikishe (aswelekileyo, amhlophe, ebhedini ...)
Iingcali zengqondo zithi i-lizard imele ubuntu obungenamabhongo, obungenamdla, obungenaminqweno. Nangona kunjalo, abanye ababhali bathi intsingiselo yayo ilungile: uzama ukususa uloyiko lwakho kunye namaxhala akho. Kodwa ezi ziingcaciso nje eziqhelekileyo; usenokungazibandakanyi nanye kwezi. Kubalulekile ukuba, ukuze utolike iphupha lakho, uhlalutye nzulu imeko eyenzeka kuyo, kunye nemeko yakho yangoku.
Umzekelo, ingcuka ebomvu ekulumayo (kusenokuba yindlela oyoyika ngayo esi sirhubuluzi) akuthethi into efanayo nokubona ingcuka enkulu ikuhlasela kwaye uyilwa nayo (uzama ukusombulula zonke iingxabano zakho zangaphakathi ngomzamo). Ke ngoko, licebo elihle ukuqwalasela zonke izinto ezinokwenzeka uze emva koko wenze izigqibo zakho.
Olunye utoliko malunga namaphupha amacikilishe
Ukuba uphupha ngeengcuka ezifileyo , oko kuthetha ukuba kukho inxalenye yobomi bakho ekufuneka uyilibale . Mhlawumbi unexesha elidlulileyo elimnyama ozisola ngalo? Ngaba ukhawuleze wenza isigqibo? Ngaba wenze impazamo enkulu? Ukubola ekugqibeleni kuyasibulala isilwanyana, kwaye ingqondo yakho ikubonisa ukuba ufile.
Ukuba uphupha ngengcuka engenamsila , oko kuthetha ukuba ungumntu obuthathaka. Esi sirhubuluzi sinomsila obuthathaka kakhulu osuka emzimbeni waso ngokulula.
Kwelinye icala, le nyaniso yindlela yokuzikhusela, nto leyo ethetha ukuba uhlangabezana kakuhle nobunzima kwaye ufumane izisombululo ezikhawulezayo kwiingxaki zakho.
Ingaba ziincukuthu ezinobuthi ezikulumayo? Eli phupha, ngamanye amaxesha lihamba nezinye izilwanyana ezifana neenyoka, iitoti, okanye ii-iguana, libonisa ukurhanela kwakho ukuba kukho umntu okwenzayo ngasemva kwakho ukuze akungcatshe.
Ngaphakathi emazantsi uyifumene kwaye kufuneka uhlale ulumkile.
Ukuphupha ngeengcuka ezininzi ezimnyama nezimhlophe kuchazwa njengokusebenzisa ingqondo yakho, kuba izilwanyana ezirhubuluzayo zigcina iinyawo zazo ziqinile emhlabeni.
Umnyama nomhlophe ufana ne-yin ne-yang, ke ungumntu oqiqayo owenza izinto emva kokucinga nokulawula iimpembelelo zakho.
Endaweni yoko, iintaka zifanekisela uphawu oluhamba entliziyweni.
Ngaba bebesekhaya? Ukuba isilwanyana sizulazula ekhayeni lakho sibaleka eluphahleni nasezindongeni, oko kunxulunyaniswa nengxabano yosapho engasonjululwanga.
Hlala phantsi uthethe nomntu onomsindo ngaye ayeke ukubandezeleka yilephupha.
Ngaba uyakwazi ukuqhelana nobunzima? Iinciniba zikhwela lula eluphahleni kwaye zinyamezela ukubanda nobushushu, nto leyo ebonisa amandla akho okwamkela utshintsho olungalindelekanga kwaye wenze ngokufanelekileyo.
Ngoko ke, iphupha lakho lalinjani? Kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye? Ngaba bekukho iinciniba ezazibaleka kuyo yonke indawo? Zazinombala onjani: otyheli, omhlophe, oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, obomvu…?
Ngaba babesilwa? Mhlawumbi ukukhwela? Yenza ntoni yonke into oyibonileyo kwaye uziva njani xa uvuka? Ndingathanda ukuva ngamava akho.
Ukuba ulifumene liluncedo eli nqaku malunga nokuphupha ngeengcuka , ndicebisa ukuba ufunde amanye amanqaku afanayo kwicandelo lamaphupha ezilwanyana.
