Kule posi, siqokelele ulwazi oluninzi kangangoko malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ulila . Ukuba ungumntu onobubele, othanda ukuhlala yedwa okufumanisa kunzima ukuveza iimvakalelo zakho, amaphupha ngokulila asenokuba yinto eqhelekileyo, njengoko yindlela yokubonisa ebusuku into ongakwaziyo ukuyiveza emini. Ayithethi ukuba ulusizi; akufuneki ukuba udlule kwixesha elinzima ukuze ube namaphupha la. Ingathetha nokuba unomntwana, okanye ukuba ulala nomntwana omncinci, kwaye bayakuvusa ulila ubusuku ngabunye.
Oku kwenza ukuba ukuphupha ulila kube yinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa ukuba liphupha elivela ngokungacwangciswanga, kufanelekile ukulihlola. Okokuqala, kufuneka wazi ukuba intsingiselo yephupha iya kwahluka kakhulu kuxhomekeke kwiinkcukacha zalo.
Kuya kwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwixesha elithile okulo kunye nemifanekiso evuswa yingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo. Ukulila kakhulu ngaphandle kwesizathu akuthethi into efanayo nokulila emva kokulahlekelwa ngumntu okhethekileyo (ungafunda malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngabantu abafileyo ), okanye emva kokulahlekelwa ngumntu wakho wangaphambili (kufuneka ufunde ngakumbi malunga nokuphupha ngomntu wakho wangaphambili ), iqabane lakho, okanye nesilwanyana sakho sasekhaya. Makhe siqwalasele ezinye iimeko.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ulila?
Ukuba kuye kwafuneka ujongane neli phupha loyikisayo, kungxamisekile ukufumana isizathu sokufumanisa ukuba kutheni uqale ukukhala ngaloo ndlela okanye ngenxa yokuba omnye umntu ekhalile phambi kwakho. Ukuba ufumene iindaba ezimbi okanye ushiye neqabane lakho kwaye awuchaphazelekanga, unokuba usabela ephupheni.
Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumene imali ongayilindelanga okanye unyuselwe imali... kuphela kule meko iinyembezi ziya kuba ziinyembezi zovuyo.
Ukukuqonda oku, kubalulekile ukuba sihlalutye imeko ebangele ukuba kwenzeke ntoni. Unokwenza nokubhala okufutshane kwayo yonke into eyenzekileyo kuwe kwiintsuku ezidlulileyo. Ngaphandle kokuqhubela phambili, funda eminye yemizekelo yokufumana olona lwimi luchanekileyo kunokwenzeka.
Ukuphupha ulila ungathuthuzeleki
Ukuba uphupha ukhala ngokungalawulekiyo kuba ufumene iindaba ezimbi, kuqhelekile ukuba oku kunxulunyaniswe nokuba ufumene iindaba ezimbi ezifanayo ebomini bokwenyani . Ngokucacileyo, oku kuthetha ukuba olu xhala lubaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba lubonakala, ukuba lube yingxaki ekuthinteleni ukuba uphumle ngokwaneleyo.
Isenokuba yinto engenamsebenzi njengokuxabana nabahlobo okanye noodadewabo. Kodwa isenokuba yinto enzulu njengokufa komntu omthandayo, ukugxothwa esikolweni, ukungathembeki kwiqabane lakho (ungafunda nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngokungathembeki ), kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi ezinokwenzeka.
Iphupha lokuphalaza iinyembezi ezininzi
Ngaba uphalaze iinyembezi ezininzi ephupheni? Ukhale kakhulu ephupheni ude uvuke uneenyembezi zokwenene? Mhlawumbi "isikrweqe" sakho sokujongana nobomi asiloncedo njengoko ucinga. Akufanele uvumele ukukhathazeka kukuhlise. Ukuba ufuna uncedo, ungaya kubona ilungu losapho olithembekileyo okanye umhlobo. Kodwa ukuba ufuna enye into kuba ityala lakho linokukhokelela kuxinzelelo, kuya kufuneka ufune uncedo lobuchwephesha kwezengqondo.
Nokuba kunganjani na, kuya kufuneka ufumane indlela yokuwukhupha umsindo onawo ngaphakathi.
Ukuphupha ulilela uthando
Ngaba ukhe walila ngenxa yothando? Ukuba ephupheni lakho ubulila ngenxa yentlungu yentliziyo kwaye uzive ungenakunceda, ingcaciso icacile: yile nto kanye eyenzekayo ebomini bakho bokwenyani. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba, ukhe waba nolwalamano olungaphumelelanga kwixesha elidlulileyo okanye okwangoku unalo. Mhlawumbi uqaphele izinto ezithile ezikukhokelela ekubeni ukholelwe ukuba iqabane lakho alikuthandi, okanye uphupha ngokufuna ukubuyelana nomntu owayethandana naye.
Mhlawumbi nguwe ongamthandiyo. Kuya kufuneka ujonge umkhombandlela oza kuwunika ubudlelwane, kuba isenokungalandeli indlela eyiyo.
Ezinye iintsingiselo zokuphupha ukhala
Wakhe waphupha apho wawukhala khona? Ngaba zazikhala ezi ntlungu? Uzive njani wakususa wonke umsindo ngaphakathi? Bonke abalandeli bale bhulogi bangathanda ukwazi iphupha kunye neenkcukacha ezinxulumene nalo. Inokukunceda ngamaphupha akho.
