Akunakwenzeka ukubaleka ubomi ngaphandle kokujongana nokufa. Ukuphupha ngokufa kuyinto eqhelekileyo, ikakhulu ngenxa yokungaqiniseki kokungazi ukuba yintoni esilindeleyo emva kobomi, kunye noloyiko lokulahlekelwa ngabantu esibathandayo. Lidla ngokuba liphupha elibi eliza kusishiya sivukile sibile kwaye sibetha ngamandla. Ngokuchasene nenkolelo eqhelekileyo, iingcali kwi-psychoanalysis yamaphupha azisoloko zinika amaphupha intsingiselo engalunganga. Ukukhangela intsingiselo yokuphupha ngokufa kuqhelekile kakhulu.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuphupha ngomntu ofayo kunxulumene nophawu lothando ngaloo mntu, olubonisa umnqweno wokungamvumeli ahambe kwaye ungaphindi umbone (ungafumana ulwazi oluthe kratya ngale nto ngokufunda ngentsingiselo yokuphupha ngabahlobo abaswelekileyo ). Oku kungaba ngumhlobo, umntu osebenza naye, ilungu losapho, okanye iqabane lakho. Iintsingiselo zokuphupha ngokufa zahlukile kakhulu, kwaye iimeko zomphuphi kufuneka ziqwalaselwe ngononophelo. Kubalulekile ukunikel’ ingqalelo nakwinkcukacha ezincinci, njengoko yonke into inegalelo ekutolikweni ngokuchanekileyo. Apha, siza kuzama ukukubonisa amathuba anokwenzeka.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha nabafileyo?
Njengoko usenokuba ukhe wafunda kweli phepha malunga nentsingiselo yamaphupha , ngumphuphi kuphela onokufumana ingcaciso echanekileyo yephupha lakhe. Umongo wephupha elibandakanya ukufa, iimeko zakho zobuqu, kunye nesimo sakho sengqondo kunye nendlela osabela ngayo xa uvuka, kuya kunceda ekwakheni oko ukubonileyo. Xa uphupha ilungu losapho lisifa , libhekisa kwinto ovakalelwa ngayo ngaloo mntu umthandayo. Libonisa ukuba uyoyika ukulahlekelwa nguye ngesizathu esithile. Uyazi ukuba bangabantu ababaluleke kakhulu kwaye ukungabikho kwabo kuya kwenza ubomi bakho bungonwabi kwaye bungabi nantsingiselo.
Amaphupha aqhelekileyo ngokufa adla ngokunxulunyaniswa nokufa konyana okanye intombi , umntakwenu okanye udadewenu, abazali bethu, utata wakho, umama wakho, iqabane lakho lothando, oomalume, ootatomkhulu noomakhulu, abatshana, abazala, abahlobo okanye kwanabantu osebenza nabo obaxabisa kakhulu.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ilungu losapho lasweleka kudala , kwaye ikamva likubuyisela kuwe "liphila" ephupheni lakho ukuze ukwazi ukuthetha nalo ixesha elide. Eli phupha alithethi nto ingako ; lithetha nje ukuba ubomi bukunika ixesha elingakumbi lokuwakhumbula. La maphupha aqhelekile kakhulu kootatomkhulu noomakhulu abaswelekileyo.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ndife ngokwam ephupheni?
Asisoloko siphupha umntu obalulekileyo esifa ebomini bethu, ngamanye amaxesha umvuni omdaka ubonakala kuthi.
Ayilohlwayo elibi, elikude nayo. Iingcali zibhekisa kwinto yokuba unikwa amathuba amaninzi owaphosayo, kwaye nengqondo yakho ikwazisa ukuba ngekhe iphinde yenzeke.
Lifikile ixesha lokutshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo, ukonwabele into oyifunayo ngokwenene.
Kungenzeka ukuba awukhululekanga neqabane lakho lothando, ukuba umsebenzi onawo awugqibi ukukugcwalisa, okanye uxinezelekile kangangokuba uhambo nje lunokukunceda unqamle ingqondo yakho.
Iphupha elinzima ngakumbi: ukuphupha sivusiwe . Libonisa ukungabi naxabiso, ukuzijongela phantsi.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqale ubone ukuba uxabiseke kangakanani, ugcine engqondweni yonke into onokuyenza, hayi okoko ungekaphumeleli.
Isenokuba liphupha eliqhelekileyo ukuba ubukele umboniso bhanyabhanya okanye uthotho lukamabonwakude, okanye ukuba ukhe waxoxa ngezihloko eziqhelekileyo kunye nabahlobo bakho. Kwimeko yokugqibela, iya kuba liphupha elibi kuphela elingenakuphindwa.
Ezinye iinguqulelo malunga nokufa
Ngaba ukhe waphupha ngokufa komntu ongamaziyo? Usenokuphupha ngokufa komntu ongamaziyo konke konke, uze ngosuku olulandelayo uzibuze ukuba kuthetha ukuthini.
Ihlala ithetha inkxalabo yakho ngehlabathi kunye nolwalathiso oluthathayo. Isenokuba lixesha lokuqala ukusebenzisana nezenzo ezithile zentlalo.
Ukuba uphupha ngokufa komntwana okanye usana… Ukuba unabantwana, oko kuthetha ukuba uyoyika ukulahlekelwa ngabo, kodwa akusiyo imiqondiso emibi leyo.
Ukuba umfazi ukhulelwe, okanye ukuba ukhulelwe, oko kuya kunxulunyaniswa noloyiko lokulahlekelwa ngumntwana. Ungafumana ulwazi oluthe kratya ngokufunda ngokuphupha ngomntwana nokuphupha ngabantwana.
Ngaba igazi livele ephupheni? Igazi linxulunyaniswa nokuziphatha okungafanelekanga, okanye ukungcatshwa ngumhlobo.
Ukuba wenze isenzo ongazingci ngaso, isazela sakho kodwa usasikhumbula ngohlobo lweli phupha liqhelekileyo.
Ingaba isilwanyana sakho sasekhaya sifile? Ukuba inja yakho, ikati, umvundla, ihamster, okanye nasiphi na esinye isilwanyana sifile, ukuphupha ngokufa kuthetha ukuba uyabakhumbula, ukuba ububathanda kakhulu, kwaye ubakhumbula kakhulu.
Ukuphupha usweleka kwingozi yendlela… Iingcali zokutolika amaphupha zibonisa ukuba intsingiselo enokwenzeka yale meko inxulumene neengxaki zomsebenzi: umzekelo, usenokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi wakho.
Kuya kufuneka uthethe kwangoko nomphathi wakho, okanye umhlobo omthembileyo, ukukuqinisekisa kwaye wenze isicwangciso malunga nento oza kuyenza.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uphupha ngengozi ukuba uza kuthabatha uhambo (kodwa ayizukuthetha ukuba kuya kubakho nantoni na embi eyenzekayo ngexesha layo).
Ubuzibulala ephupheni? Ukuba uphuphe uzibulala, yimeko embi leyo ebonisa ukuba uphila ubomi obungakunelisiyo.
Ukuyeka ukuzibulala "kukukhala ufuna uncedo" kwingqondo yakho ukutshintsha ubomi obukhokelayo. Iya kuba lixesha lokwazisa ngotshintsho olukhulu olukwenza wonwabe, ekwenza uzive uzalisekisiwe kwaye ucinga ukuba ubomi bufanelekile.
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