Ukuba ubukele imuvi kutshanje ebonisa ukubiwa kwabantu, njengeThe Boston Strangler, idokhumentari ehlola iingqondo zabathimbi, okanye ingxelo yeendaba ezibuhlungu malunga nomntwana olahlekileyo, unokuba namaphupha afanayo njengendlela yokubonakalisa uxabiso lwakho ngobomi bakho. Kodwa akufuneki ukuba ubone isiganeko esinjalo ukuze kwenzeke eli phupha libi. Kweli nqaku, ndiza kuchaza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngokubanjwa kwabantu.
Kodwa kufuneka wazi ukuba ukuthinjwa ephupheni kunokubangelwa zizizathu ezininzi, ingasathethwa ke ngempembelelo yomxholo kunye nemeko ojongene nayo kwintsingiselo yephupha. Akufani nokuba ngumthinjwa njengokuba kunjalo ukubanjwa nokubaleka , okanye ukuba kwenzeka ukubulawa , okanye ukuba umntwana wakho, usana, okanye nawuphi na umntu omthandayo uthinjiwe. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukufunda ezi ngcaciso zilandelayo kunye nohlalutyo lwengqondo ngokweenkcukacha.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngokuxhwila?
Iingcali ngokubanzi zichaza ukuba amaphupha apho umntu ekuthimbayo anxulunyaniswa noloyiko lokuhlaziswa esidlangalaleni , okanye ukuphulwa kobumfihlo bakho okanye inkululeko yakho. Umzekelo, ukuba umfazi wakho akakuvumeli ukuba uthenge imoto, ukuba abazali bakho abakuvumeli ukuba uye kwikonsathi, okanye ukuba utitshala wakho ukohlwaya ngaphandle kwesizathu, umphefumlo wakho "uthinjiwe." Mhlawumbi awuyi kuqondanisa nentsingiselo engasentla, kuba yingcaciso nje eqhelekileyo. Kufuneka uqwalasele ubuqu bobomi bakho kunye nomxholo otyhilwe yingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo, njengoko benditshilo ngaphambili.
Ukubeka eminye imizekelo, oko akuthethi okufanayo ukuba uphupha ukuba umntakwenu uxhwiliwe, apho ubonakalisa uloyiko lokulahleka kwakhe, kunokuba umntu obhuqayo ephanga inkampani yamazwe aphesheya athimbe abathinjwa abaninzi, uzifumane ungaphakathi. Siza kubona amanye amaxesha axhaphakileyo kodwa ngakumbi iimeko.
Ukuphupha ngokuxhwila ngenxa yezoqoqosho
Ukuphupha ngokuthumba ngenxa yeengxaki zemali . Ukuba utyikitye imali mboleko yendlu ongenakukwazi ukuyihlawula, ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha isicwangciso sakho sefowuni kodwa awukwazi kuba uvaleleke kwisivumelwano seenyanga ezingama-24, ukuba wenze isithembiso kufuneka usigcine. Kuzo zonke ezi meko, ungaziva uvalelekile. Uziva uncitshiswa inkululeko yakho yokukhetha kuba awuzange uyinike ingqalelo isivumelwano osisayinileyo. Ngoku, ebusuku, ubona ukuthumba apho kuya kuba nzima ukubaleka khona kuba akukho ndlela yimbi ngaphandle kokuhlawula amatyala akho.
Ukuphupha ukuba ungumqweqwedisi
Ingaba ungumphangi? Ngaba uphangisile umntwana, okanye umntwana womntu? Xa ungabavumeli abanye ukuba bathethe izimvo zabo okanye ungamxabisi, ukuba awukhathali ngomgangatho wobomi babasebenzi bakho, ukuba awukwazi ukumelana nokugxekwa okwakhayo, ukuba unyanzelisa intando yakho kuwo wonke umntu kwaye ungaxabisi igalelo labanye abantu, ususa inkululeko yokuthetha; kufana nokuba ubaphangisile. Kufuneka ulungise ubuntu bakho kwaye ube ngumntu ovumela izinto ukuba zingabi mandundu amaphupha amabi okuphangisela abantu.
Ukuphupha ndixhwilwe kwaye ndiyathobela
Ukuba, kwelinye icala, ungumntu othobela yonke imiyalelo ngokurhoxa kwaye ufumana kunzima ukuphakamisa isandla sakho okanye uthi "Yeka," olu hlobo lokuzithoba lunokubonakala emaphupheni apho uthinjwe ngumntu. Kwakhona, kuyacetyiswa ukuba utshintshe le ndlela yokuziphatha kwaye uzimele xa ukholelwa ukuba kukho into eyenziwa gwenxa, okanye ukuba umntu uphazamile. Kunjalo naxa ufumana kunzima ukunxibelelana nabanye.
Ungaphupha uthinjwe xa indlela oziphethe ngayo eluntwini ithathwa njengengaqhelekanga. Ukuba awuyilandeli imithetho yentlonipho eluntwini, ukuba uphuma "kwizinto eziqhelekileyo" kwaye ungazamkeli izinto ezithile, ungathiwa ukrwada, kwaye oko kungakhokelela kumaphupha amabi malunga nokuxhwila. Umzekelo, ukwenza iibhotile ezinkulu nabahlobo bakho ebaleni, ungatsho ukuthi "Enkosi" ngalo lonke ixesha, ukuba nendlu emdaka ngokuthelekiswa nezinye. Kwezinye izinto uya kuba ulungile, kwezinye awuyi kuba. Xoxa nabahlobo bakho ngokukhululekileyo ukuze nenze izigqibo eziza kukuvumela ukuba uphumle kwakhona ebusuku. Soloko uzama ukubaleka.
Ngoku lifikile ixesha lakho. Unokwenza amagqabantshintshi ngamava akho kunye nabo bonke abafundi, ukuya ezantsi kwizimvo. Sisonke singafunda ukuhlalutya amaphupha asiphazamisayo nokusombulula amaxhala ethu.
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Ukuba ulifumene liluncedo eli nqaku malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngokuthumba , ndicebisa ukuba undwendwele amanye amanqaku anxulumene nalo kudidi lwamaphupha anonobumba u - S.
