Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngamagqwirha? Amagqwirha awenzelwanga abantwana kuphela. Ngokwesiqhelo ngabantwana abancinci abanokuba namaphupha amabi, kuba xa sasisengabantwana sasiboyika, kunye nezilo, iziporho , kunye neevampire . Abantu abadala nabo baphupha ngabo. Umzekelo, ukuba ukhe wabukela imuvi malunga nobugqwirha okanye ubugqwirha, njengoHarry Potter, kuyavakala ukuba ubuya kuba namaphupha amabi malunga namagqwirha kunye nobugqwirha ngobo busuku.
Nangona kunjalo, kubantu abadala, amaphupha anokuvela ngokuzenzekelayo ngaphandle kokudibana nobugqwirha ngaphambili. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba siqale, khumbula ukuba ayizizo zonke iiphupha zobugqwirha ezinentsingiselo efanayo. Ungabona igqwirha libhabha ngentonga yalo yomtshayelo , lilungile okanye libi, likuphose ngesiphoso, okanye likuleqe likuhlasele. Ngaba lihle okanye libi linentsumpa empumlweni? Ngaba liyahleka okanye liyalila? Ngaba liphethe ikati okanye lihamba nedemon (kwimeko enjalo, kubalulekile ukufunda okungakumbi ngokuphupha ngeedemon nokuthandaza )? Umxholo ubalulekile, ngoko ke siza kuqala ngengcaciso ebanzi size siqhubekele kweminye ecacileyo.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngobugqwirha, ukuthakatha nabathakathi?
Ngokwesiqhelo, iingcali ze-onirology zichaza ukuba iphupha lobugqwirha linokuchazwa kumanqaku amabini.
- Okokuqala, amagqwirha ngabantu abazulazula ngomtshayelo wabo bodwa, ke oko kuthetha ukuba akho uloyiko lokufa wedwa, Ukuphelelwa ngabahlobo.
- Okwesibini, abo bantu bazama ukukwenzakalisa kufuneka ubagxothe nantoni na kuphephe ukuqhathwa okanye ukwenzakaliswa. La magqirha alunge kakhulu ngokubagxotha.
Oku kunokuba kukutolikwa ngokubanzi, kwaye njengoko ndicacisile kufuneka uhlalutye imeko yakho yobuqu, uloyiko lwakho kunye neminqweno kunye nelizwekazi eliveliswe yingqondo ephupheni. Makhe sibone amanye amabali anentsingiselo.
Iphupha lamagqwirha angendawo
Ukuba ubona indlela igqwirhakazi elikhupha ngayo umsindo nomona kuwe, usenokuba uziva ngendlela efanayo ngaloo mzuzu ebomini bakho. Ngaba unomsindo ngomntu othile ? Awuzange uthethe nomhlobo wakho ixesha elide? Ngaba uziva unomsindo kwaye ufuna ukuziphindezela kumntu okukhubekisileyo? Ngelixa ulele, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuzibona umphosa. Ngamanye amaxesha abandakanya nomtyholi (cofa apha ukuze ufunde ngakumbi ngamaphupha nomtyholi ).
Ukuphupha ngamagqwirha kubuthathaka
Ngaba uzive ubuthathaka? Umntu obuthathaka unokuba namaphupha amabi ngamagqwirha. Oku kuthetha ukuba uyoyika ukwenzakala , uyasokola ukuthi hayi, kwaye kulula ukuphembelela ukuba wenze izinto ongazigqaliyo ngazo. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba uyazi ukuba abantu banokusebenzisa ububele bakho, ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo ibonisa oku emaphupheni akho.
Enye ingcaciso enokwenzeka inokuba nentsingiselo yembali . Khumbula ukuba kwiXesha Eliphakathi kwakukho ukuzingela izazi, amagqwirha, kunye nabahedeni ababeshumayela ngokuchasene nemithetho yeCawa. Babetshiswa esibondeni baze bathuliswe. Ungacinga ngento efanayo ebuthongweni bakho ukuba uziva ungenamandla okwenza izigqibo, ukuba uthintelwe ekuthengeni into oyifunayo ngokwenene, okanye ukuba uziva ucinezelwe kuba ungakwazi ukuveza uluvo lwakho.
Iphupha lamagqwirha amaninzi abhabha
Kunjalo ke naxa uphupha amagqwirha amaninzi ebhabha phezu kwakho, ekusukela, ekuhlasela, kwaye ehleka ngalo lonke ixesha. Lifikile ixesha lokuba uthethe into oyicingayo ; musa ukugcina iinkolelo zakho zangaphakathi kuwe—yiloo nto kanye ekuthethwa ngayo kukuphila kwintando yesininzi.
Iphupha lomthakathi olungileyo
Kudla ngokutolikwa ukuba uthanda umlingo kunye nehlabathi lobugqwirha. Mhlawumbi ingqondo yakho ikuthumela umyalezo wokuba ube ngumlingo.
Ndiphupha umthakathi onekati
Kwakhona, ukuba unekati ezandleni zakho, kuthetha ukuba uthambile kwaye uya kubahlekisa abantu (jonga ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngekati ).
Ukuphupha ngomntu othakathayo
Ngaba wakha wazibuza ukuba elo "phupha libi" livela ekukhumbuleni izinto zakudala? Iimbiza ezizele ziipilisi eziluhlaza nezimfusa zokuphosa iziphonso kunye nemilingo kwizidalwa ezimbi, intonga yomtshayelo yokubhabha uye kwiindawo eziphakamileyo, intonga yokwenza umlingo... Mhlawumbi ukhumbula ubuntwana bakho , imihla yakho yobuntwana.
Ividiyo yentsingiselo yokuphupha malunga namagqwirha
Ukuba ulifumene liluncedo eli nqaku malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphupha ngamagqwirha , ndicebisa ukuba undwendwele amanye amanqaku anxulumene nalo kudidi lwamaphupha aqala ngonobumba u- B.
